i am seeing a guy . who had been my very good friend in past . initially we two really had good tome together .shared our feeling .loved to spend time together . but when it came to getting seroius about marriage and things ,he started making all possible excuses he could . at times it seems that he is a real trouble with his profesional life but next very moment he seems to just ignore the things and try to escape it as long as possible . why is he doing that .
2006-09-08 18:00:09 · 22 answers · asked by sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't want to get married. If you do I suggest you find someone else.
2006-09-08 18:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready for marriage. He maybe trying to get his career together before he thinks about settling down. From my experience it seems that when a woman falls in love with a man and wants to marry him, nothing else seem to matter. Men on the other hand like to be prepared to raise a family, meaning having finances in order, a home, money set aside to provide for child's education. Men like to know that the future is somewhat secured be for they take on the responsibility of marriage and raising a family. Women on the other hand feel that once they get married the couple will do whatever it take to make it work as long as their together. Just ask him what he wants.
2006-09-09 01:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he is not ready to move on to the next level of commitment in your relationship. How long has this been going on? You say you were friends for a long time, but now you are more serious, perhaps in love, and he is not returning your feelings completely. Ask him outright, see what he says. Listen to his words, but watch his eyes. There is no reason for him to lie to you. If he needs more time to settle his work situation, or to decide if he truly loves you, let him tell you. But do not keep playing his game.ou are to smart for that. Give him an ultimatum, regarding your relationship, but soften it by telling him your real feelings, again, and put a time limit on it. Tell him you need to know whether to give him the time he needs, perhaps a month or two, or you need to get over him , and on with your life. Good luck.
2006-09-09 01:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by stevensings20032001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could we know? There could be a number of reasons. All of which really don't have a clue about. Especially when it comes to your problem with him having difficulties at work. As far as him ducking marriage, how long have you two been together? Everyone's got their own pace in which they like to take things. Maybe yours is a little faster than his? Give it time. Especially if it's been less than a few years. Afterall, what's the rush if you're going to be spending the rest of your lives together?
2006-09-09 01:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes probably not ready for marriage dont rush him. if u really love him u wont mind the wait. or the dude is a cheating liar who is not worth ur time and should tell him to choose between u and watever is holding his retarded mind back.best of luck
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2006-09-09 01:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by so_totally_awesome13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him sit down and talk about it. Tell him you just want to know what he thinks about it, if he could see it happening, things like that. Promise him you won't be mad, and when he tells you make sure to keep that promise.
Here's a secret: guys respond really well when you are straight-forward about what you want to know and you promise not to make it emotional.
2006-09-09 01:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by dijpak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't believe in marrage. maybe he has seen alot of people who had gotten married,loosing themselves in marrage and stopped haveing fun with the friends anymore. alot of people get married and thing they now own that person and the trouble starts,see what i'm saying? if you think of marrage try not to ever,think that you have gained a possestion.
2006-09-09 01:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by CARLENE R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was just having good time with a good frnd...
i would suggest you to read "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt...its an amazing book...helpa understanding the guys and their lame excuses..
2006-09-09 01:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by roddur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be unprepared for marriage as yet. If you still love him, slow down a little, let him take his own course...
2006-09-09 01:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by Maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to get married, sometimes you start making excuses to say it is over.
2006-09-09 01:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by svven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared and not ready for committment. If you want a good time but no real future go for it.
2006-09-09 01:02:01 · answer #11 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋