a good friend of mine her and i lost some contact over the past year i moved and moved back so we started talking again about two weeks ago. she is going through a seperation right now and called me to help her out and watch the kids for her. I suggested we do a movie night at her house for old times and catch up. she said it sounded like a good idea..I called her three days ago left a message telling her i was off from work till mon if she needed help with anything to call me and see if she wanted the movie night this weekend. i have not heard back from her still.. im not sure if she was just using me and would like some advice to know if i should call her to see if she still wants to get together any advice appreciated
2006-09-08 17:56:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She put you as the babysitter, you were probably being too nice. You should have told her that you didn't want to take her of her kids and you want to get to know her. Either that or she is doing the on and off romance with her dude again or being single again. It will be hard for you to be with her if you are the babysitter.
If you get bothered easily, then it is a bad idea to be with a girl who has kids from another dude. If you end up in a relationship with her, then you are going to have to put up with things you don't like about her, her kids, and the kids father. That is alot. See if she has a friend that you can hook up with that doesn't have any kids. And try to keep her as just a booty call or something like if you can. It will be better for you that way.
2006-09-08 18:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Marcel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying, " You can tell a tree by it's fruit"
At this point it don't seem that she wants the movie night!
You have called her and left a message, she hasn't returned your call! That should tell you some thing!
It seems that you will be her monkey on a string, when she wants some thing, she'll pull your string, other wise she will leave you be!
About the only way I know to get things in order, would be for you to have a face to face with her and be Frank and honest. If she drops you, you've lost nothing but problems!
2006-09-08 18:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similar happened to me, I hadn't seen my friend for years, she was working for a collection agency and used the company to help track me down she called all my relatives to find me, we talked once and she gave me her phone #, email address everything and she said she wanted to get together and catch up some more... well I never heard back from her... I tried calling her and I emailed her...nothing... I think as time goes by when you get in touch with someone you haven't talked to for a long time you expect them to be the same person as when they knew you! It was strange because as I recalled the conversation and the quick catch up we did on the phone, I was married and she was not... I had children and she didn't ... I think it kind of made her see that I was not the person she knew 10 years ago... It may have felt weird ...like talking to a stranger... If that makes sense?? Just try to call her back no more than two times... if nothing comes out of it I wouldn't read to much into it.
2006-09-08 18:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she's going through a separation, cut her some slack. She might be in more pain than you think. If you call her up, ask if she needs any help. If she still feels comfortable talking to you, then she will start speaking. You never know what a person's emotions is during separation. Hope all goes well for you!!!
2006-09-08 18:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by b_jay82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say try calling her again. Things happen. Messages get erased. I have kids too and they forget sometimes. Being human, we always think the worst. Give her another chance and if she doesn't respond, move on. Life is too short to keep waiting for people.
2006-09-08 18:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her go. you don't need friend like that. She'll do it again and again and you'll feel sad everytime. If she has a good excess this time then see what happens, but if she does it again take it as a sign of what you friend ship has in store for you later in life.
2006-09-08 18:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by sbellgoettman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u b +ve i mean wht if she's in sum trouble n cudnt call u back who knws.I really think u shud go a head n call her n c if she needs ny help so u better pick up ur phone now!!!!!!!
2006-09-08 18:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she could just be going through some things right now and does not know how to deal with them. but if she does not want to hang out with you then maybe she was just using you and i would just aviod her for a while like she is doing to you.
2006-09-08 18:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would call again. check in with her and let her know that if she is up to it you can still have a movie nite. and if shes not thats fine too you can do it another time.
2006-09-08 20:37:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ozark American 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is getting seprtated you said...so u shud be more undrstanding towards her...it must be a very difficult phase for her and might not be possible for her to keep up to you and your pland and yr expectations....if you are a true frnd, thn you will be more patient with her, give her some more time and stand by her....coz good frnd never think of being used they just help and are thr for thr frnds unconditionaly!!
2006-09-08 18:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by roddur 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋