I am a white girl who grew up in a family that didn't approve of blacks dating whites. I never have found black guys attractive until about a year ago and now i have a real big thing for them and no one knows this, but my friends. I don't know how to let my parents know that I like black guys without them throwing me out of the house and disowning me. I am not dating a black guy, but i have liked some and just couldn't date them just for the fact i didn't know what to tell my parents or family members. So if you guys know what to do then answer this! Thxs!
2006-09-08 17:55:51 · 24 answers · asked by Shooting Star 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt matter what your family thinks when I was growing up I had a grandpa and male figures in my life that we against dating outside my race, but as I got older I realized that my family cant control what makes me happy, you should be w/someone who makes you happy. If your worried about being thrown out of your home I doubt that would happen, but it has been known to. Its your life and your choice, your family should be respectful of your choices, going back to my family I dating a few guys outside my race and thought what will my parents think, but when I brought these guys home, my family liked them b/c they were respectful and treated their daughter w/kindness and respect
2006-09-08 18:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kayleighs Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I had the same problem when i was younger. My parents did not approve. I was 15 at the time when i first started dating a black guy. My parents were very upset with me. To make a long story short... I am 35 now and after 2 divorces; 2nd husband black... the guy that they kept me away from when i was 15 asked me out couple months ago and we have been dating!! So if u are really serious about black guys and wanting to see them.... stand up for what u believe in. And another thing... i would probably move out!! Best of Luck 2 YA
2006-09-08 19:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, that's not right, i mean my mom kinda approves them. my sister married a mexican so i guess she's cool with that but my mom hates him. N e wayz back 2 ur ? maybe go out with them and not tell ur parents. And try 2 hide every evidence u can. i was just like u i didn't really have a thing for hispanics, until i moved 2 where i'm at now. and now i'm like in love with this 1 guy at my school. Well, sorry i couldn't b much help 2 u! good luck!
2006-09-09 08:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by wildcat 4 lyfe! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was about 7 or 8 I heard my mom refer to a mixed couple as "Oreos". I'm the kind of person that can recall something 15 years later and realize what it really meant. Anyway, she seems to have changed since then and would be ashamed if I brought this up to her. Do your parents still feel that way right now?
Unfortunately, if your family really is racist the only thing that will help is a lot of time.
2006-09-08 18:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by dijpak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your family culture will be hard to change, but not impossible. But you have to ask yourself why you have suddenly taken a liking to people of another race, a move that is sure to stir up trouble for you at home.
This is a case fo the grass appearing to be greener on the other side of the fence.
It's attractive because it is forbidden. It's an old story. Discover yourself.
When you are out on your own, you and yu feel that you can jeopardize your support system, then date whomever you want, black, yellow, green, purple.
2006-09-08 18:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good for you for being open minded!!
If I were you, I would not share that information with your parents until you need to. Avoid the conflict on this issue although you are definitely in the right to like any guy regardless of their color of skin. As you get older the opportunity may present itself when you can have a conversation about it.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 18:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by MYSTICHROME 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i just want 2 ask a question. do ur parents tell u how 2 dress up, or how 2 put ur hair? who's life is it? look, if u want 2 date the guy do it. u should be clear 2 ur parents. the thing their doing is so old fashion. i would date a white guy even if my parents don't approve. the only thing my mom can say is what she thinks about him. the way he is, personality. if ur mom told u: " u should not wear pink, it's an ugly color, would u wear pink?" just tell ur parents how u feel"
2006-09-08 18:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
date, love knows no colour. Try out everyone, the person as an individual rather then colour. This is self interest beleive it or not. If they benefit you in the start of the relationship (feelings, talking, caring, interesting, physical attraction) then go for it. After that you can get into love and passion.
AND NO, forget others and get yours.
2006-09-08 17:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Youvkniw how black adult males are. they have this complicated like they desire their very own ladies constantly looking and chasing after them at the same time as they pass and chase different race of ladies. Its notably much like they purposely desire us to be lonely and perpetually searching for a guy lol. Its unhappy in my opinion.
2016-10-14 12:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by sachiko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell your parents until you fall in love with a black man. There is no need to have them stress you out when you aren't even dating one yet.
2006-09-08 17:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by The Princess of Pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋