Next weekend I have a good friend who is coming out here to visit me. Now there is a chance that we may end up having sex. The problem is that just today she told me that she had gotten chlomitia back in july but that she had gotten rid of it (by getting some shot or something). And the day before that we were on the phone and I was just playing around and asked her how many guys she has slept with in the last year. I didn't really want to know but then she told me that the number was ten guys. Up to now I had always thought that she was a "good girl" type. I'm not stupid, I figured she had probably slept with a few guys here and there, but ten. I don't know about you but that seems like a lot to me, way to many. She has already bought the ticket to come out here, but my question is, should I sleep with her? I really don't think I should, I mean that is like playing russian roulet with your life. Am I just being to cautious or should I really just not sleep with her?
2006-09-08 17:53:24 · 26 answers · asked by the_world_is_yours44 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And sorry for the terrible spelling
2006-09-08 17:53:48 · update #1
and I wanted to add something, we have always been friends with benifits. At least back when I lived close to her, so are relationship as friends has always consisted of sex, so we wouldn't be ruining our friendship.
2006-09-08 18:03:07 · update #2
and one more thing, anybody who thinks that ten guys in one year is not a lot for a young woman is wrong. To the women if your saying this, than you have no respect for yourself and you are probably a slu.t. And to the men, do you really want your partner to have slept with ten other guys that same year, come on now, WTF!!!!!!!
2006-09-08 18:05:47 · update #3
well, it's the clap, right? i don't know anything about that STD but I think u can get fully cured from it. IF that's all she has, and who knows what sort of stuff is laying dormant in there waiting to surface, I'm serious aids can take 7 years and she might have something else too just not detected ya know? Herpes? aint nobody want 2 get that, it's a lifetime of punishment...and how much fun is it going 2 B while having sex with her, thinkin about all the other guys she's screwed, wondering where you rank of the others she's been with this year, wondering when you'll be able to get in with the doctor, and if it's going to be a series of shots or a cream..... if she gives you some ick on your junk, i mean, it just seems much too contrived and weird to me. I think u ought to tell her to cancel her ticket if you honestly don't want to have sex with her cause if you were both kinda thinking that way, you'll end up doing it whether you decide not to or not, you know, she'll be there and you'll go out and ...... have your dr.'s number on hand for the day she flies back out...... ewww......
2006-09-08 18:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And by the way, just because she had an STD does not make her a whore. Some women sleep with one person and end up with a disease that will end the rest of their lives. It's all about protection...whether you choose to use it or not. Hell, you didn't think she was a whore when you were using her as your friend with benefits...You sound a little upset that it seems like you weren't her only friend. Although you were just kidding when you asked her how many guys she had been with in the past year, now hopefully you have learned to not ask a question you don't really wanna know the answer to.
2006-09-08 18:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart.
You know for a fact that she is coming, the plans have already been made. If you are not married or in a long time committed relationship with a women you should be taking precautions to protect yourself anyway. If she was treated for STD in July she should be clear of it. The difference between her and some other women that you may potentially sleep with is that she is honest about her past. She didn't have to tell you any of that. If a women is not sharing this information with you (private and Intimate info about her past) that does not mean that she is not experiencing it. ALWAYS RAP IT UP.
2006-09-08 18:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by aunyadee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out the woman's age. Ten is not really a lot at all. Maybe she was just very sexually active that year. Who cares how many people sh'e slept with? The question is if she's being safe. If she had an STD then I don't think she's using condoms. If you are having any doubts about sleeping with her then don't do it. If you do then use a condom.
2006-09-08 18:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is way way too dangerous..... and condoms are not 100% sure (only 98%).... Do not give yourself to her just because of lust or just for the heck of it. Tell her you have to cancel the visitation...... having to work in a hospital for nearly two and a half years...geeee....you do not know how many good looking men and women have AIDS or STD! Do not bet on it. An hour of happiness will not be a good trade for a lifetime of regret. Find someone who can "make love" rather than "make sex" I know it might sound conservative and odd but there are a lot more you deserve than fun in bed....do you think so? -yunesa@yahoo.com
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2015-04-30 20:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kahlil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you doubting yourself even a little --don't do it. 10 guys.. well, to you it may be a big number but I know a lot of girls that have has oh like a few times that. You can't always hold the past against someone. The STD would be what I would be worried about.. does she have intercourse without protection? There may be a chance she could have something else.. that wasn't curable-- I dunno if you decide to have sex with the girl at least use protection.
2006-09-08 17:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only have sex if you have a close relationship and you have trust. It sounds like you two aren't there yet. Once you do get there, protect yourself, for both your safety. BTW, just so you know, if a girl says 10 its probably quite a few more than 10.
2006-09-08 17:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better not, although if you cant really avoid not to have sex with her, then use double durable condoms. Be careful of that girl because she might hold it against you after you had sex with her. I could tell that she is promiscuous. She is obviously a slvt! Get a good condom, fvck her brain out and kick her out! You are probably the 21st guy,
2006-09-08 18:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't have sex with her. And these days 10 isn't that much for a young women. It should be for everyone but people like to have different partners and different experiences. It is playing with your life, if you don't where they have been before you.
2006-09-08 17:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋