2006-09-08 16:51:03 · 24 answers · asked by lvwire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only you know how close you were to your husband and how much of a loss it was for you. However there comes a time when the grieving must end and we move on with our life.
There is no set time period for this. The most important thing for you to do is take it slow. A loss for any of us makes us very vulnerable to want and need to be close again. But we must be sure it is the right thing to do before we jump.
Your husband would want you to move on and enjoy your life. Don't let his memory detract you from doing just that.
If you are asking this question I would say it is time for you to begin looking again.
Go with your heart but make sure you do what is right for you.
2006-09-08 17:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm working on that question myself. People have been urging me as a widow of over two years to get out again. I went my first date last Saturday, making sure it was during the day and that I had a legit reason for cutting it short if I felt uncomfortable. It was okay; I loved the attention. How nice to have someone want to hold my hand again. He calls every day, but I am undecided about an evening venture.
As to an answer:
A widow starts dating when she actually would like to spend a few hours with a man who shows interest in her.
A widow starts dating when she says to herself, "I think I'm tired of being alone."
A widow starts dating when a hug from a friend is not enough
A widow starts dating when she finally realizes her husband is never coming back.
A widow starts dating when she realizes she has almost forgotten what a kiss feels like.
A widow starts dating when she starts seeing men as sexual beings again.
A widow starts dating when she remembers that she is in control of her life.
A widow starts dating when she wants to -- and does it slowly but with confidence in herself.
2006-09-08 17:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by expatturk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's generally up to the person. If they are having a hard time dealing with it then they are probably not ready. The rule of thumb for when you are emotionally stable enough to date is 2 months for each year you were together. However this should not go past 2 years. If the problem is that they just became a widow and aren't sure if enough time has passed to be socially acceptable that's another story. Most people think approximately a year if it was a long marriage. For shorter marriages the guidelines above should do.
2006-09-08 16:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by gettingmadtoday 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only when she feels ready. There is no timeframe for this- it varies from person to person. I know a young widow who didn't date again for a couple of years and even then, it was really hard for her. She said something that really made a lot of sense about the grief- "you don't get OVER it, you get THROUGH it"
When you have healed enough to venture out again, you will know it. Don't let anyone pressure you, just do what your heart is ready for.
2006-09-08 16:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by from HJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are all different, and some would start earlier than others. Some may never date again. Some would think and say they would never, then someone special would show up. It is just up to the individual.
2006-09-09 11:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as she have gotten over her deceased husband and is ready to love another person again. Provided that she does not take the other guy as a replacement for her deceased husband which may be very unfair to the person if she do so.
2006-09-08 16:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by caterpillarsg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever her heart tells her it's ok. Some people begin dating very soon after a spouse's death, and others wait a long time.
She should live her life as she deems proper, and all who love her should support her.
2006-09-08 16:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by AFL lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever they feel it's right. My grandma started dating a guy 1-2 years after my grandpa died and just recently married this new guy and they just bought a house that they're moving into this week (my grandma is in her 60's).
2006-09-08 16:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 years. Don't laugh! My dad passed away 2 years ago and if my mom starts dating right now I think I would be very upset. I need another 8 years
2006-09-08 17:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be true to yourself and follow your heart. It's a peaceful feeling deep inside. Be true to yourself. Everyone needs to follow their own path and the blessings will be limitless. God allows time for us to heal before he lets us reach out to others.
2006-09-08 17:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by snsetrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋