My sister still lives at home with my parents has a 3 yr old son (that my parents take care of) she is very disrespectful at times and has not worked for at least nine months. My parents are always complaining to me about her, but yet they won't kick her out because they are afraid she won't take care of my nephew and they won't take him away from her, because they don't want to hurt her. But my mother gets real depressed because she can't do anything because she basically has to take care of my sister and her son. What do I do, I love all of them but I am so frustrated
2006-09-08 16:45:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Communication. Sit down and have a little chat with your sister about changing her life and accepting responsibility for her life. Offer to help her find a job and a place of her own to live if you can. Offer to watch your nephew until she gets started or discuss leaving him with your parents until she gets started. It may be hard to believe, but sometimes people don't know thay are causing problems unless you tell them.
2006-09-08 16:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by TJMiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't it sad? maybe is there was something wrong with our parents generation... i have a similar situation in my family.
but your parents can do something about it, but they probably won't. they can take legal custody of your nephew since the parent is not a responsible adult, but they must take the first step and get child protective services involved.
right now they are part of the problem and not helping your sister or your nephew. as if they were buying drugs or alcohol for an addict.
the whole situation is making your sister more dependent and setting a very bad example for your nephew.
sounds like your mom needs counseling to help her deal with her depression and the problem at home. and do yourself a favor and get counseling for yourself.
2006-09-09 00:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by curly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is enabling your sister by keeping her. She is not helping to cure the problem but prolong it. It is time for some tough love. Your mom needs to have a heart to heart with your sis and agree to a game plan and a time line to execute it. She can still offer to keep the grandson while sis is at work. Working for minimum wage is still more than she is making sitting on the couch. Charge her rent and maid services... Spend an hour or two at a counselor. Do something but grin and take it.
2006-09-08 23:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this type of economy is hurting your sister. She shouldn't be disrespectful though. Your mother is simply taking a higher road so no family fued starts up between anyone because she loves all of her kids and grandkids so much. Don't butt in ignore it as hard as it may be.
2006-09-08 23:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to stop coming to you with their problems. I had to do that to my parents once they were b'tching to me about their marital problems. Tell your mom and dad that they need to put their foot down and tell her she's out of the house if she doesn't have a job by such and such date and STICK to it. She's using that baby as a way to live off of your parents.
Another option...
Do you think that maybe your sister is depressed? Although I think she's being lazy, it could be because she's really depressed and needs to see a psychologist. Have your parents take her in for a mental evaluation.
2006-09-08 23:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point there is nothing you can do. Your parents know what they HAVE to do in order to remedy the situation but they refuse to.
2006-09-08 23:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
until your parents decide to do something about it there is really nothing that you can do. but you can give her some lessons in respecting your parents.
2006-09-09 03:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss her ***
2006-09-09 00:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋