Am I insecure to have ill feelings about my boyfriend spending time with females that I don't know or havent met...Even though he claims they are just friend. He always reassures me its nothing but I cant just ignore what I am feeling.I have talked to him about it an he feels I am being controling...we live together. I know Im right.
But please...help me out
2006-09-08 16:28:25 · 16 answers · asked by wannakno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl it depends how much you love and trust him and if you don't rely trust him it's not a good relationship if you rely love him just trust him if you are felling a little scared about that then try to meet the girls and if your sure just brake up because jealousy ain't pretty especially if you have a good hart you don't want it to be covered do you
2006-09-08 16:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♥La Dulce Chica♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh it normally always depends on the situation! i was friends platonically nothing wrong with a man from work, but his wife ended up not feeling comfortable for no god damn reason, but he put her feelings first which is respectful and we stopped being friends. technically we were just email friends, not hangin out or anything like that. But honestly if you have talked with your man about it and told him how you feel and he still doesnt take your feelings into consideration then i wouldnt trust it. I mean i dont know him, maybe like my friendship there isnt anything, but since he spends time with them alone ? not with you? then THAT is a huge NO NO. he needs to stop being that type of friend; i wouldnt trust him esp if he doesnt have time for your feelings. a nice man would stop
2006-09-08 23:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to have men friends over....then see how he reacts.
Dog eat dog world.
If he trust u , he would let u have men friends over like he has women friends over..
Be wise and mature about this, they are probably just friends.
Be friends with them.
But remember u live with him , so u can throw friends out anytime. Okay....dont let friends get all the power. U and your boyfriend be in control.
2006-09-08 23:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you met his female friends? I'd be concerned about that. You aren't being controlling; you're living together and he's going off to spend time with women you've never met and don't know? That sounds fishy to me.
2006-09-08 23:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not insecure. Anyone who tells you they do not think about the stuff you are thinking about is either lying or they do not like their significant other. This is the only advice I can give you to help you along. If he is going to do something wrong he is going to do it. Your thinking about it will not stop it from happening. You know one day you are going to die right? Do you think about it incessantly? No. You are enjoying life until the time comes. Try to think of it like that.
2006-09-08 23:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're insecure, I think he's being selfish. If a man truly loves and respects his mate, he wouldn't put her in the position you are. Female friends are for single guys.
2006-09-08 23:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if this feeling continues you might ask some of your friends to spy on him but things get worse you could get a privet detective.
2006-09-08 23:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep yep sounds to me like he is playa....he knows he has u as his insurance .....and he can go and find other girls and bang them...while he knows u will be there if things dont work out with the other girls! i say dump him.....if u live together then he doesnt need to hang out with girls that u dont even know....this relationship wont last long!
2006-09-08 23:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by PIMP_DADDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have trust issues, If you dont trust him enough to hang out w/ another female. Why are you with him? Let alone living with him? It doesn't make sense!
2006-09-08 23:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by lilmizzerica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NEVER ignore your feelings.........make it known how you feel towards him...and his choices of friends......always be aware of whats going on...dont be in the dark too much...good luck,been there.
2006-09-08 23:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by rbccuello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋