It's been months since I first met this guy. We meet almost in monthly in gruop in which I am active and helpful- he appreciates that a lot and I know.
he is nice, cool lovely, encourages me and recently mentioned his interest in getting into project with me and some other guy.
He has told me nothng directly, he never mentioned about his private life to me, he replies to all my business mails, but he never innitiates any. Twice he signed off, "love' DH. I feel he has a liking to me. My feeling for him are becoming more intense cos of these few cues. but, I am really scared to tell him the way I feel.
Will I be cheap to tell him "I love you"?
Ive managed to invite him over for dinner in a few weeks and he has agreed. I mentioned he could come with his G friend and he did not comment on that one. But if he has a G friend why would he sign off : love' twice in a email and write a sweet official reference letter on my behalf?
I am 25+ but very naive in such things. Any tips?
2006-09-08 16:13:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, DO NOT TELL THIS MAN THAT YOU LOVE HIM...PLEASE! HE WILL RUN...VERY FAST AND FAR!!! PLEASE DO NOT INVITE HIM AND HIS GIRLFRIEND AGAIN BECAUSE YOUR MOUTH WOULD HAVE IMMEDIATELY DROPPED TO YOUR FEET IF HE WOULD HAVE SHOWED UP ON YOUR DOOR STEP WITH ANOTHER CHIC!!!
JUST CALM DOWN AND COME OUT AND ASK HIM IF HE'S INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE. IF NOT, GREAT...IF SO, STILL GREAT...FIND SOMEBODY ELSE.
BUT DEFINITELY, DO NOOOOOOTTTTT SAY "I LOVE YOU" TO SOMEONE THAT YOU ONLY SEE ONCE A MONTH, E-MAIL TWICE A WEEK, AND ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ....PLEEEEAAAASSSSSEEE!!!
2006-09-08 16:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How else is he going to know how you feel? But at the same time, if he doesn't feel the same way, you may scare him away. Maybe instead of telling him "I love you", let him know you have special feelings for him and that you really love the time u spend with each other. Stay cool, there could be a lot of reasons he's being aloof. Time will tell.
2006-09-08 16:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I Love You means different things to different people. A Christian will say to someone, "I love." meaning the love for all people inspired by God. A hippie will say "I love you." inspired by marijuana. The love of a family member is different than the love of a boyfriend.
I would not put a whole lot of confidence in the sign off "I love you", on the email. And from the way you present yourself, you are very vulnerable and could be victimized very easily. Use your brain here, not your heart. Do not do anything you will regret!
2006-09-08 16:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! For the love of God, don't use the word Love if you're not even DATING the guy. Why not just tell him you're a psychopath?
He already knows you're fond of him, because you're already friends, right? So you want to let him know you are attracted to him. That is the next logical step. Then, after several months of dating, after you've met his parents, had lots of great sex, THEN you can tell him you love him. But NOT before.
The above answer (from "God") is total crap, just ignore it. Same with anyone else who even stops to think about it. You DO NOT say to "I love you" to a man you hope to date. It's probably a good idea to say it sometime during your relationship, but the honeymoon is as good a time as any.
2006-09-08 16:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by abram.kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he likes you. They only sign off with love if they like you. He just can't say it cause the last time he said it the girl kicked him in the face and she left and never let him see her again. So you got one of those guys that will never say he loves you until you say you love him first. If you keep waiting then you'll probably both die together but alone. He'd rather keep signing off and if it doesn't happen than at least he can still see you and be friends. Now if you believe in equal rights then you'll halfto say it and buy him the ring. Ha,hahahahahhaha :)
2006-09-08 16:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by God 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds more like infatuation than love. If it was love, you would have alreay put in the groundwork and it wouldn't be a problem to say "I love you" because you would feel safe and secure enough to do it. It will happen naturally if it is for real!
Ask him if he has a girlfriend, otherwise you are sending out mixed messages! He won't realise you have an love interest in him.
If you feel scared to tell him how you feel, trust how you feel and don't say it!
Most importantly, relax and have fun getting to know him.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 21:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pace you emotion .. use your head
it maybe that he is interested ..
but he may be just using his head and being
proper ..he is using his head ..
feel your heart beat ..write some romantic stuff .be inspired .. but have no espectations
it is beautifull to feel romanced but go step by step don't leap before you walk ....
good luck ....
2006-09-08 16:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by angelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't for goodness sake tell him you love him.
i think you need to distance yourself and think properly.
2006-09-08 19:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it u have nothing to lose he could say what u are wanting to her
2006-09-08 18:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by nigel f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not taboo but it is chancey.
2006-09-08 16:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋