sexu@al intercourse w/ children in the home?

Question

...no, im not a werdo, im asking this in a mature way. Im taking a marriage and family course, and i just wanna know peoples/parents opinons.

personally, i think its alittle weird to engage in intercourse knowing that your children are in the next room, sleeping, or NOT sleeping (especially if their young)...then again, my folks were divorced so, i never had to really deal with it. I mean, what if you get caught?!

thoughts/opinons would be nice.

Answer 1

if a couple refused to have sex due to the kids being home i think that would leave to frustration and finding relief elsewhere.
if you have a lock on your door then use it.

plain and simple, it will not scar them for life if you are having sex in your room with your husband, if they walk in then you should have a talk with them and help them understand

Answer 2

Ok here is the down low- if you wait for your child to be old enough to be around in the same home without feeling really guilty, you will only have sex every 18 years. That is not realistic. I think that every couple has done it- nothing is wrong with that.

I have three kids and have a great sex life- i never have done it while they were in the room with us, we are always careful with noise control (unless they are all gone for the night) and try to sneak a few when they are out playing or whatever.

Its all about creativity though. Pillows, towels covering the bottom of the door or sneaking away to the hotel for the night are ways you can get around it!

I was caught once by accident however- and it scared the crud out of me- luckily it was at the end and we were both covered with the blacnket. My son burst in the room demanding fruit loops for breakfast. he had no idea what had happened so now i just look back on it and laugh- it was one of the few times we forgot to lock the door.

Answer 3

Huh.

Well, let's see.

I imagine that my children will live with me until they are at least 18, and my youngest one is only 1. I do NOT intend to abstain for the next 17+ years. Nor do I intend to rent hotel rooms, or send my kids to outside babysitters, or to take parents-only vacations just so I can have sex.

Kids sleep soundly. I'm discreet. I close their door. I close my door.

I figure if I get "caught," they'll learn that sex isn't dirty or nasty and that their parents have a healthy sex life. I'm not exactly looking forward to that day, of course, but I don't think it will be a soul-scarring experience, either.

Besides, my kids have siblings. Sooner or later they're going to figure out how that happened!

I don't think, in America, anyway, it's kosher to have sex in the same room with your kids, asleep or no. But in the privacy of my own room, after bedtime, I'll do as I please and I don't feel weird about it at all.

Answer 4

OMG come on!!!Everyone with both parents in the home knows they are doing the damn thang whenever they can. What are you supposed to do? Take your kids to the park,movies,friends house so ya'll can have sex. Sounds good but it doesn't happen.I live with my husband and we have a two year old in the home. We get horny just like any other normal person and we have sex. There is a way to go about it. I don't see anything wrong with putting your child to bed (if your lucky like me,your child will sleep all night and you don't have to worry about them coming in on you) She is in her room and we are in ours. Nothing wrong with that. Your kid is sleep and they have no idea what's going on. Now if you want to have wild, loud, out of control sex then yes...maybe you should take the kids to grandma's or get a babysitter and get a room for the night. That way you wont wake them and cause for them to come looking for you.

Answer 5

Before I had my kid, I thought the same thing, "what are we going to do when he gets older?" Well, you look at things different and find discrete ways of having personal time with your partner when there is a child in the house. I don't know how couples with 6 kids in the house manage to get away with it (at least I hope the children aren't exposed to it) but if you are that concerned with it, you will find a comfortable way to disguise your and your partner's playtime in a way the child/children won't catch on. Don't dwell on it, I'm sure you'll do the right thing when the time comes...good luck. :)

Answer 6

Using door locks, and keeping the noise low works well. Parents should always be able to enjoy the intimacy that helped them fall in love and have a family. If I had to choose between having sex with my kids in the house or waiting until the last one went to college, I would probably go nuts :-P

Answer 7

Some thoughts:

Lock the door.

Arrange furniture to prevent discovery (beds against walls).

Under 2 won't remember (unless your really memorably kinky).

Young kids don't care/ understand.

Older kids don't want to know and will block or ignore.

Story: My wife asked her parents to quit jumping on the bed late at night because the bed hit the wall. She was 9 or 10. Her bed was moved from the adjoining wall when she got home from school.

Don't abstain, just be sneaky.

Answer 8

My husband and I only do the "deed" when the kids are in bed for the night. Or when the oldest is at school and the babies are down for naps. That way there is no chance of getting "caught".

It is definately not something you want your children to "watch" happen. It is an intimate thing they do not need to be a part of!

Answer 9

absolutely nothing wrong with it

after all, alot of families have many children, which requires sex after first is born

just lock door, do it at night when they sleep, and avoid things like kitchen table


also try to set up a switch with close friends
at a preschool i work at, there are two boys, both four, who are neighbors. they each have a younger sibling, both two, and they all get along well. every friday is sleepover night. they are estactic and love it. one week they sleep at one house, leaving one couple alone, for movie, dinner, and all night, next week it switches. this way every other week you get child free house for a while

Answer 10

Locked doors are a must when children are in the house. My husband and I put pillows behind the headboard so there's no chance of it banging the wall. We also turn our fan on high to muffle any sounds. As long as the door is locked the closest you can come to being caught is your kid knocking on the door.