Is it wrong for me to change the locks on my door while my boyfriend is at work? He is very disrespectful to my feelings and has means based reasons while he won't help me do anything. Basically if I refuse to have sex, he won't help with the kids in the morning saying to the kids " mommy didn't give me my medicine last night, she's being mean". I was going to change the locks but forgot the key. My best frieind said to leave the locks messed up so when he comes home he will ask what is going on .Either he will get the hint to straighten up , or he'll make plans to leave before I throw him out. Basically she feels I should treat him how he treats me .When I confornt him about my feelings he will deny ant wrong doing and say I don't know what you are talking about , and that I should do the same when he asks about the locks. Oh by the way she said I should leave an apartment app on the counter filled out witih his info, calling it the eviction packet. What do tou think?
2006-09-08 15:43:11 · 13 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think if you truely don't want to be with him than it's time to go your separate ways. I think you should do it in a more mature manner. You mentioned kids, you need to set a good example for them.
2006-09-08 15:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't go anywehere financially - the apartment application would be a bit harsh/tacky.
Ok, the guy is a loser - and you're smart enough to recognize that.
Your friend is too - she would like you to have some 'sweet revenge' however, if you start playing games with him it can become more difficult to end it. You don't want to play games with him, you need him out of your life.
Your best option, yes change the locks. However... I don't know the guy's temperment. It might be best that you also plan on being gone that night. Go out with some friends annd have a good time. But ask another friend or two to stay at the place so if he causes any trouble (breaks a window to get in) they can be there to stop him.
Most likely scenario:
he comes home - door won't open, so he knocks.
Friend answers - hands him a suitcase with his personal stuff and tells him he don't live there no more.
He asks to talk to you
Friend says you're gone for the night.
(sorry for the ramblings - hope it helps)
good luck
2006-09-08 15:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here is where I have experience with an ex husband. I not only changed the locks...I MOVED...and he was living out of his car. See, when I would help him, he was disrespectful, OH, and did I mention the fact that he tried to come back to me after his mistress kicked him out...and well hmm...LOVE has to be tough and there must be boundaries or you will be hurt even more. So also I must address your sex issue. NO NO NO NO NO That does not work...and not ever. Using sex as a weapon, bartering system is wrong. Enuf said on that one. Girl this is like a million questions...you sure demand a lot.
2006-09-08 15:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU.. need to talk to him like an adult... Tell him this is NOT...working out.. He needs to help you...and especially...RESPECT YOU.. You are letting him disrespect you in front of your kids?? You need to have respect for yourself.. Why are you worrying about him not having money or a place to live.. HE ..obviously does not care to respect you, your home or your children!! HE is not even having sex with you? What if there is someone else? He is acting like a child... Don't do the same thing.... Don't send him hints and wait till he gets them...he might not want to take hints!.. Don't give him a chance to accept he is being disrespectful to you.. JUST.. tell him how you feel..and that you DON'T need..that..YOU need a real MAN.. that can give you love..support and respect. Is that not..what you want your kids to learn from you? BE STRONG.. you are a mother and you sound smart... It's not worth living with someone like that.... Girl....YOU DESERVE BETTER..and even on your own.. you are better off! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-08 15:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is a terrible source for advice. YOu have kids and a relationship and it is obvious that both of you need to learn how to treat others. Run dont walk to a therapist and try to work out your problems. Give the relationshipo a chance and maybe the two of you can be happy. If that doesn't work then you need a lawyer not a locksmith
2006-09-08 15:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a dream of many of us who like to dress up: being feminized by force. And he is so lucky to have you ! And it may be a tickle for both of you when he will be exposed in public. There are different ways you can get the pleasure with him: looking still like a guy but dressed as a girl - very humiliating when done in public ! Or just wearing a padded bra (silicone breastforms?) or just high heels as a guy. But for the comfort for you both you should dress him completely as a girl, get a wig (better even: getting his own hair grown out with a girlish cut) and apply make-up on him, try to make him as convincible as possible ! Perhaps dress yourself as a boy and take him to the dance-floor. - I have been done so by my girlfriends earlier; it has always been a great turn-on. It is important for him to get his own girly clothes, panties, bras and all the rest of pretty underwear (>Victoria´s Secret), skirts and dresses. I like these beautiful Japanese Lolita dresses, together with petticoats. They are so wonderful cute and girly. Browse on the web ! If you want to go deeper into it, replace his boy´s stuff step by step and get him accustomed to wear girl´s clothes. You may accompnay him when he goes shopping for his beautiful outfit. But make sure: It will not be you who wil ask to try it on, but he himself ! It is always embarrassing for a guy to try on a dress in a boutique or store for lady´s wear. And the greatest pleasure will be if he does so, going there dressed as a girl. An exciting adventure. Your friends, especialy your girlfriends will see him as a girl. First introduce him as your new girlfriend ( a girl´s name is a must! ), before they will notice his real identity ! You will become more and more skilled with it. Go for it ! It is a wonderful travel, like into Alice´s Wonderland. Will never become boring, always new surprises ahead ! It is a pity you cannot be reached by email. I would love it to exchange arrays of ideas. There is nothing weird about it.
2016-03-27 03:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly, and don't play his game. Your kids shouldn't be hearing that stuff from their father, it's time to tell him to leave. There is somebody else out there waiting for somebody just like you to come along, life is too short to be miserable over a guy. Tell him to buzz off and leave you and the kids alone.
2006-09-08 15:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong at all to kick him out of your apartment and your life if he is being that disrespectful to you. You should treat him like he treats you.
2006-09-08 15:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by lilreveuse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the locks on him. He that will make think twice about messing with you.
2006-09-08 15:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing games.
Kick his *** out, or move and get a restraining order.
2006-09-08 15:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by scary g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋