I fell In love with my girlfriend when I was 17 and now were both 21. The thing is she moved to another country and we decided to stay together and we plan to marry when were 24. The thing is we been apart 3 years and I only see her once a year for 1 month now. Dont get me wrong, Im passionate about her and only she can make me feel good about EVERYTHING, but now its getting soooo hard that my mind is in a constant state of depression. I want to hold her and shes not there, I want to look into her eyes and shes not there, I want to touch her face when I kiss her, Im never going to leave her but I need help.....
2006-09-08 15:42:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some of you are missing the fact of us being together through the hard 3 years we were apart. We talk almost 4-6 hours a day after our colleges (Phone, Yahoo, Email). Our love letters are now 1000 and counting and each of them are atleast 2 pages long. We even thought about putting it all together once we get married to remind us of how hard it was apart and appreciate every minute together.
2006-09-08 17:54:19 · update #1
If it makes you feel better my aunt and uncle met in highschool and they went to different state colleges. They stayed together and now they are married with 3 kids. I think personally that we can't tell you how long it can last. It sorta depends on the people. If you are as passionate as you say then I think you could end up getting married.If You become less passionate and care less well then it may not work.
And Yess long distance relationships can work you just need to WORK at it.
2006-09-08 15:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question but it really is left up to the two people who share the relationship. If both of you have trust and you are in love then some miles away in other state dont put any test on the relationship. you have to believe and then always to willing to support each other no matter how far away you are. I know you are wanting to see him and spend time but until this is possible share phone time and emails and letters and even cards and gifts. The fact of knowing you have someone is better than not having at all. Pray each night that God will bring you all closer and you will soon be united. Dont give up keep the faith. Surely good things come to those that wait.
2006-09-08 15:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I've learned that long distance relationships just don't work, I've been there.....It's very hard to remain faithful, you just don't know what the other person is doing and with whom, I'm sorry but it's the truth!!
Now if you guys really care about each other, then wait until you guys are 24 and if you're still in contact and still feel the same way about each other then get married.....but if you guys don't make it, don't feel bad, you won't be the first or the last....trust me!!! If she really loves you and if you really love her I'm sure you'll make it, it's 3 more years, but you have to realize that if she's not the one, you could miss out in meeting your true love! So just think about it, and if you feel like you won't be able to go 3 more years like that, then talk to her, tell her exactly how you feel, she might be having the same doubts, communication is very important!! Good Luck
2006-09-08 15:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is real that long distance relationships do no longer tend to final long, it is because of the fact they're devilishly no longer trouble-free to maintain. there's a element approximately proximity that performs a function in loving somebody romantically. of direction it does no longer mean it on my own can smash a dating, in spite of the undeniable fact that it could make all of it that harder. the undertaking with long-distance relationships is they're close to impossible to maintain continuously. 2 human beings often bypass into it with a plan or quickly start up formulating a plan that they are going to quicker or later be able to pass closer mutually. If there is not any plan than unavoidably the dating will wane, it might take some short months, or in line with danger a pair of years. i think of you men are doing nicely to maintain mutually for see you later, i'm hoping you 2 plan on moving closer to the different at some degree! each and all the perfect
2016-12-12 05:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a year is all you can get now. According to your plan you have only 3 more years to go. Hang in there! I can say anything for sure, only some adivce.
1.)Keep comunicatio flowing-If the telephone is all you've used so far you have a long distence to go. The twentith century gives us many more options. With webcams you could talk to her live. This constant communication will keep the relationship alive.
2.)It's OK to hang out with girls as long as you have no romantic intrest in them. You see them as just friends.
3.)k I'm kindda reaching on this last one-Plan the perfet honeymoon and tell her about it. I think she'll want to hang on, (Check out Ceaser's resorts in the Poconos. Designed for honeymoons)
2006-09-08 15:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by cancerman_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally you have lasted very long for a long distant relationship. But There are things that a human needs to have in a healthy relationship. Long distance relationships don't provide the physical aspects. Eventually both grow apart. Enable to have a healthy relationship you have to bond with your lover evry day. We change all the time. Without having that lover around , they become a stranger.
2006-09-08 15:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by mistletoe_collector 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work but you will need to make it work! it can be hard but if you really want to be with this girl, you will get though it! Just think of what it will be like once your married!..how wonderful to be with the girl of your dreams the one you love! Hope It Works Out Well! xx
2006-09-08 15:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships don't and can't last very long. People get lonely and need companionship. Hopefully things may work out for you...but it will be a miracle. The old saying goes "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". NOT TRUE. Faces and dreams fade as time goes by. Sorry. Pops
2006-09-08 15:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends on the mental connection .. i mean I'm a funny guy about to be in a long distance relationship with a girl with barely any sense of humor ,, DUDE i just read the details .. if it is that hard how the hell am i suppose to do it
2006-09-08 15:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by mango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anywhere between one week to 80 years depending on the peoples longevity and the depth of their love
2006-09-08 15:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋