My parents are EXTREMELY overprotective and they won't let me go anywhere unless its with them or my brothers. They weren't born here and so they didn't have the same opportunities that I have as far as education so they want me to focus ONLY on school and that's it. They won't even let me have a boyfriend. Even though i get really good grades in school and have a good GPA, they won't let me do anything with my friends.
I have NO life!
HELP ME PLEASE!!
2006-09-08 15:40:08 · 18 answers · asked by lov2playgames24/7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By the way im 17yrs and I can honestly say that I am a very good girl and have NEVER gotten into any serious trouble
2006-09-08 15:54:00 · update #1
tell them "I do what I want!! I'll do drugs when I want, I"ll have sex when I want. Whateva, I'm badass I do what I want!!" It's fool proof trust me.
2006-09-08 15:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't know how old you are, so it's hard to give alot of really good advice. Have you tried bringing your friends and their parents to your home to meet your family? I know that's a pain in the rear end to do, but it may be the only way to get some kind of social life going. The best thing I can say since I don't know how old you are, is to just keep those grades up, and ask to join school-related activities and see what they say. Maybe if it is something with school where teachers will be present, like after school clubs, sports, etc. then they will allow that. It's a place to start and just take it as it comes. Do NOT sneak around and lie to them. That will not make things any easier for you in the long run. When it comes to a boyfriend, you don't want someone that would disrespect your parents that way.
2006-09-08 15:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Build trust through different activities that you have to go out on your own and do, show them that you have the ability to live your life with a sense of independence and strength of will, while at the same time minding that they are still your caregivers and have had this resposibility for your entire life time. Old habits are hard to break, so gaining more freedom will be something you will have to prove to them that you are ready for mentally and physically. The fact that you have brothers doesn't really help in your situation because its going to be taken that their role will be to play your "outside guard" when the parents aren't around, so first you'll have to be able to show your parents that you don't need to be watched by them. Start small with different tasks that show them you have grown up and can take care of yourself, do NOT jump on the fast track and suddenly bring a boyfriend home and expect everything ok, try friends first and I would definetely advise going with girls first to break down the first barrier. From there on you'll just have to slowly earn their trust. Good luck!
2006-09-08 15:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by joel m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell me how old you are and I will give some imput. Plus what are your parents native country
EDIT: The best advice I can give you is to try and be a little more persuasive. Because they look to you as thier little angel and will always. But you will be going off to college soon and that should solve it. Just be a little more patient. Maybe try and earn trust, like going to a movie wit friends and having a set curfew. Alaways come back at least 15 minutes before you are supposed to be in and gradually ask to be out later. I hope they don't make you go home at like 11pm on prom night. That would suck. And when you do go off to college, don't let the lifestyle of freedom get to you. It comes with responsibility. It seems like tey are not going to budge. Sorry hun!
2006-09-08 15:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I think it depends on how old you are. If you're at least 15 or 16, a little freedom is due. Have you proven to your parents that you can handle some freedom? If you've never been in any trouble, your grades are good and they've brought you up to be a decent young lady, you should be able to handle some freedom. Present these points to them and show them that you are mature and deserve to have a social life. But you have to be able to level (compromise) with them. And be open about what you're doing and who you're with. Once they catch you in a lie, it'll be hard for them to trust you again. Good luck!
2006-09-08 15:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they would feel better if they met your friends first. You could have one or two of them over for dinner. That might help if you want to go out with them or to one of their houses later. Also tell them that you need to have some fun to release stress so that you can keep doing well in school in the long term. If that doesn't work, maybe you could try joining some extracurricular school activities--that would be social and fun but you can remind your parents that these help you look more well rounded and show leadership skills for when you apply to colleges. I hope this works for you :-)
2006-09-08 15:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anne R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine were the same way ! And I missed out on alot of things and now at 38 classmates I went to school with 20 years ago, Still say can you go ? Try to talk to them I was too scared Because I was my moms slave and I would get beat, Good Luck and pray 18 comes fast.
2006-09-08 16:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad wasn't born here and I was a great kid. That was 25 years ago....focus on school but talk to them about friends. Boyfriends probably won't fly until you're older, but ask to invite your friends over. Once they get to know them, they will be more comfortable with who you are hanging out with. Then, hopefully over time, they will trust your judgment on the boys you would like to date. But remember that those boys must always respect your parents and ask them to ask you out etc. If they're not willing to do this, then they don't value your company enough. Trust me on this.
2006-09-08 15:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHA you think you have it bad? im a guy and it was like that for me.. but that was in the past its alittle better now.. the best approach is to take it slow and warm them up.. go out and start back comming home really early like 6 then slowly start getting back at like 7 then 8 then 9 and etc.. and in no time youll be out till 2.. worked for me... but then again it all depends on your age
2006-09-08 15:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by underagelying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 21:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be fair both you and your parents need to sit down and calmly discuss what is fair.I do believe they have your best interest in heart, but at the same time you need to blow of some steam,and have a little down time with friends It is healthy to do things in moderation with other people besides family.
2006-09-08 16:05:13 · answer #11 · answered by bmr k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋