my sister just called and asked me to pray for her hubby to go ahead and pass away. he has cancer, and is in a great deal of pain. I agreed, and did so, what would you say to comfort her now?
2006-09-08 15:28:22 · 14 answers · asked by setfreejn836 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There are obviously a lot of people answering who have never watched a love one waste away from cancer. Shame on them for not having more empathy and a sense of compassion. I feel deeply for you and your sister. Cancer is a horrible death that rarely manifests itself in a kind or gentle way. Until you have gone through this with someone you love you cannot imagine the emotional stress that results from seeing a once robust person turn in to a bedridden person that is a virtual shell of their former self. There is nothing you can say that will help your sister deal with his. All you can do is be there for her and help her deal with her grief. People who have lost a loved one in this way often feel a great deal of guilt because they experience a sense of relief that it is finally over. Be understanding and help her realize this is perfectly normal. It is important that you help her see there is nothing wrong with wanting a loved one to be free of pain. I wish her the best.
To those who offered flippant answers - I also wish you the best in that I hope you never have to experience this pain.
2006-09-08 15:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That the Lord is with her and her husband at this time. And also tell her to tell her husband that it is ok for him to go. Alot of people who are at this stage in the death cycle have not released themselves from this world, and that it is alright for them to go and that God is waiting for him on the other side. I will pray for your family also. May God comfort you all in this most devastating time. God Bless
2006-09-08 15:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many family members try to hold on long after the dying person is ready to go. It was very loving of her to ask for prayers that his suffering would end.
2006-09-08 15:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are times when words are not enough. Open arms can say so much more. Shared happiness is doubled, shared grief is cut in half. I could say to just listen to her and let her lean on you now in her time of need.
2006-09-08 15:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by pleeks 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that everything is now in Gods hands but if she needs anything, to tell you and you will continue to pray for him.
2006-09-08 15:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyshopper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just commit him into Gods hands for His glory.
His strength during this might touch someones life.
2006-09-08 15:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by David S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister you have prayed that her husband be at peace. Be there for her.
2006-09-08 15:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Zyrilia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to get him to a hospice, or a hospital, and get a doctor to prescribe pain medication.
2006-09-08 15:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that both you and your sister have issues. First God is a giver of life not death, secound if you know anything of the word of God then I would want to take my prayer back because you will put a curse on yourself.
2006-09-08 15:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Head 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Just reassure her that God will call him when He is ready, and he will be in a far greater place than we are. God Bless.
2006-09-08 15:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by jmm5570 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋