Hi, im 21 years old. I met a girl at my class, she is a very nice girl, simple, and she is hot. We always hang out at school during breaks, do homework together that kind of stuff. I found out that she doesnt have a bf right now, so i was so excited, but then found out a little later that she has a 1 year old kid. She looks 18 years old, she dresses like one, but shes actually 22 years old, a year older than me. Can u guys give me advice? I really like her so much.
2006-09-08 15:12:19 · 21 answers · asked by gwap2boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you need our advice, you already said you really like her so what are you waiting for. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You never know if it will work unless you give it a try.
2006-09-08 15:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by CNKCKFIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid go ahead and do ya thing, but make sure that you watch out for the dude that she has the kid by bc most of the time dudes don't really care about the girl until he finds out that she has met someone new. so just get to know about the situation with the baby daddy and make sure that he isn't going to cause you any trouble. Anyway enough about that if you are really diggin this girl go for it no matter if she has a child. The longer the relationship the more that child will learn to love you.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-09-08 22:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by JUICY T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a problem with her having a kid, go for it.
It's hard to find a guy that will accept you and your kid. Just remember the kid always comes first. That may mean cancelled plans. Sometimes she just won't feel like doing anything because the kid was up all night. Don't get jealous of the kid. I have found that is a big problem with guys.
I'm lucky enough to be dating a guy that has two kids. He thinks I have it easy with just one!
2006-09-08 22:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great dating mom is the type who considers your childless life style and will respect it by limited or removing any pressure of their child upon you. If you're the type who are just wild about kids, im sure the pressure is fine. But if you're not, or if you're just neutral, or not ready, then she should be willing to not pressure the child on you. Most would have the men no interact or see their children at all. Some single moms are protective of their children.
A single mom is just as appealing and mesmerizing as a single not-yet-mom.
2006-09-08 22:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by wearyblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be difficult at times dating one with a kid. But there is no harm in dating her and all you can do is see how it goes. How much you like her. If you like her enough you will find ways for it to work out!
2006-09-08 22:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation once. You really should bail on this one. You feel this need to be the knight in shining armor for this girl, to b eher savior, but be warned-- you don't want to get involved here. You don't want to have to deal with the kid's biodad. No doubt he is an absolute alpha-hotel or he'd be married to the girl and supporting her and the kid as a husband and father should. I say make track fast; find a girl with no "baggage." They are out there...
2006-09-08 22:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's ok as long as you don' t mind her having a child. You should also get to know her a little more and find out more about her past by just talking to her and finding out what she was like in the past because you don't want to get with her and then get hurt so just take things slowly. good luck!
2006-09-08 22:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by la_reina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea its ok i mean but u have to realize that consequences come with dating a girl wit a kid but if u really like her all that won't matter so good luck and i wish u the best baby boy
2006-09-08 22:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot see any reason why you should not date her. There isn't enough age difference to mean anything. As for her having A child,,,,SO WHAT. Do you like kids?????
2006-09-08 22:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude just go for it theres no law against going out with a girl that has a kid
2006-09-08 22:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by alex h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋