I think not. My mother and stepfather will be there and we have not spoken in two years now. I do not want to see her. I would like to see my relatives, as there are very few, mainly older people. I would like to see them before they die! I know that they will be having dinner at a lodge tomorrow evening before the reunion on Sunday, and maybe my mom will not be there.? Not sure. Two years ago, right before my wedding, they knew mom and I were not talking I guess and they invited me to the lodge to eat with them the night before and my mother's name was never mentioned. I found out that they will be meeting at the same place tomorrow evening but no one called to invite me. I would like to go there at least and see a few of the relatives. I know that not all will be there but it would be nice to see the ones that are. I found out about them getting together through another relative who will not be attending and she does not know if mom will be at that event or not.
2006-09-08 15:11:24 · 10 answers · asked by just julie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I really do want to see her and I avoid her to the greatest extent possible. She is crazy in her own way. She talked people or tried to talk people out of coming to my wedding, stopped being friends with people who did attend and she has never spoken to me since we argued and cussed over the marriage. I know she means well in her own way, but she has been horrible as a mother, but good in her own way and she is in the past and I just want to forget her altogether because it is just too painful. I just don't want to forget all the others who live far away-relatives
2006-09-08 15:14:08 · update #1
By all means definitely go. Do it for those you really want to see. I'm sure they want to see you as well. Stay for as long or little as you like. To not go is still letting your mom drag you down. People know the situation between you and your mom and it's old news now. Besides when you go it shows that you have guts. Real spunk. Anyway, you still don't even know if your mom will be there. And so what if she is. You didn't do anything wrong. Doesn't matter if you're not invited. Your still part of the family.
Go for it!
2006-09-08 15:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reunions that what families call a large gathering to collect gossip
If you do not go they'll ask anyway if you do go their minds are put at ease. I despise the myself. I do go make a showing and invite the ones you really want to see to a more intimate gathering. For your mom, if she's there say hello and move on to the others for conversation. leaving the past in the past.
2006-09-09 03:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Visit and enjoy your relatives. If your Mom is there, say "Hi" to her and you can chat until or unless she starts getting on your last nerve, then just politely excuse yourself. I am sure your relatives know your Mom and know how she is.
You may want to seek some professional help (counselor or psycholgist) to help resolve the angst you have concerning your mother.
2006-09-08 15:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by submariner662 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're part of the family, right?
You're going to show your true infantile colors by staying away?
Hold your head up and go, and be pleasant; say nothing snippy to anyone, and do not engage in gossip. You are not responsible for any of the adult splitting up/remarrying that happened.
2006-09-08 15:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the family reunion. You also need to end the drama with your mom. You'll feel better about your relationship with your family if you go...also they probably really want to see you too
2006-09-08 15:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by shante14mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you don't go to the reunion. Instead, if you want to visit your relatives, make special trips to see them.
2006-09-08 15:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Akarui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family go. You don't have to speak to whom you don't want to but don't make others in your family suffer. They might want to see you as well. Besides that, don't you think that you are just letting them win if you don't go?
2006-09-08 15:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by CNKCKFIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go, reunions suck big time, they'll only talk behind your back anyway.
2006-09-08 15:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by frankbuzetzky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since the question has arisen in ur mind, DONT GO!
2006-09-08 15:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by penjoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES... GO... BE THE BIGGER PERSON & MEND THE RELATIONSHIP !!!
2006-09-08 15:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ NIKKI .♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋