There is a girl I truely loved that I have not seen in about 5 years and I never got over her. I was actually forced to move accross the country. She did not like me except as a friend, but 5 years ago I had no self confidence, WAS over weight and ugly. (I'm 17 now) Now I have completely changed( opposite of all of those things listed before), had girlfriends but none of them meant anything to me like this one girl. I've really already made up my mind on what to do I'm just curious what people think I should do. What i recently found out is that she has had a boyfriend for 2 years. I don't want to ruin her relationship, but I've been hearing that she is getting tired.
2006-09-08 15:09:22 · 9 answers · asked by Bass boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although what you suggest is filled with romance and beauty, love and life is always so much more complicated than the simplicity of action such feelings would ideally allow.
I fell completely in love with a man who, though his feelings were fully reciprocated, couldn't be with me because of an ethical dilema (he is married to a philosophy). We sometimes worked together and couldn't get enough of each others company. What started out as the best of friendships became ever more intense, and our feelings grew unbounded. It hurt so much to be unable to take our feelings to other places and, though it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, I chose to walk away for the sake of both our sanities. Every day I curse myself for being so strong in the face of such a weakness because I will love this man with all I have until the day I die. I think I will always wish I had succumed to temptation when the oportunity presented itself.
I had convinced myself that no other man would ever come close to igniting such feelings within me again but resolved that if I ever saw the embers beginning to glow, I would fan the flame rather than let such fires die.
After years of inadequate combustables, I now discover a tiny glow. It has warmed my heart with hope like nothing else ever has. If this fire burns, I would move heaven and earth not to make the same mistake again.
If you have decided to follow your heart, I wish you nothing but good fortune, you are so much braver than I was...
2006-09-08 21:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by CC...x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've waited for 5 years, so don't hurry now. I've been in a similar situation: when I was 14 I fell in love with a girl, nothing happened between us though and when I left my country to live in the UK (9 years later) I told her how I felt, thus ruining what could have been a wonderful friendship. She's now an actress on television as well, so I can't escape being reminded every now and then, and feeling somewhat bitter. Anyway, my advice is to try stand in her shoes. You might think it'd be wonderful if a girl came up to you confessing she's always loved you and loves you still after all these years - but in fact it's a lot to deal with, it'd be unfair as it might be a huge thing for you but not for her.. Tred lightly, take it easy, and have patience. Good luck.
2006-09-08 15:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by McAtterie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she couldn't accept you then for who you were, why, now that you have improved yourself should you go back to her?
Also, in my experience, if you can get her away from her man then why would you want her? I mean that just means that some other man will come along a bit later and take her away from you.
And another thing, people are completely different when they are in a relationship with you then when they are just friends with you, so she may not be the perfect 'dream girl' that you think she is.
Not to mention the fact that as you get older your prospective changes, like if you when to visit a putt-putt golf course as a small child and thought that is was amazing and then you go back to visit it as an adult your just like 'what the F U C K?!'...some things are better left as memories.
2006-09-08 15:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Z ben 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are actually able to ruin her relationship, then her relatonship was not that strong to begin with. Any realtionship that allows another to come between it, is not strong enough to sustain. So I say, go for it, and if she goes for you, then it was meant to be. If she doesn't then move on. Good Luck, and Good Times.
2006-09-08 15:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by D~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 17, I don't see you having a choice, here bud. Sorry, but you have to branch out, and use that self confidence to persuade some other nice girl to like you.
2006-09-08 15:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah honey, your 17, are you really telling me you are going to follow a girl you fell in love w/when you were 12? I'm 32 & looking back i've had a lot of guys, starting in h.s. come & find me to rekindle some kind of love they thought was there & i hate to tell you this but i thought all of them were crazy.
2006-09-08 15:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by heartichoke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for the right time, dont intude her relationship with that guy, or she might get reallllyyy mad. if they start having probs and it looks like theyre gonna break up, then b there for her.
2006-09-08 15:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by The Ren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok srry but unless wen ur 18 u move bak where she lives and start anew there is no hope 4 u!
2006-09-08 15:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by gabberswhiffendor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to her and WOW her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-08 15:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋