i thought that he loves me for what i am ,but he seems to look for looks now.i am little overweight compared to what i should weigh.i am depressed now ,because i loved him regardless of his looks.i would have lose my weight for him ,what should i do ?
2006-09-08 15:05:33 · 28 answers · asked by unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a new boyfriend. You can meet nice guys at church.
2006-09-10 13:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Westminster has no clue. I guess she wouldnt experience free if a bf informed her to shed pounds. I guess she wouldnt basically say convinced and do as she is informed, so stupid. on the authentic of the day that's as a lot as u. If u are pleased with how u seem then balls to him and stay that way yet when u are unhappy (and dont be unhappy if he's the surely human being to assert something) then do something about it yet surely what u favor to do. Im particular u are an attractive human being interior and out and actually frankly he does no longer sound like he derserves u because if he loved u then he wouldnt say them issues and may want to love u regardless of what u seem as if. Im particular u have not grew to develop into right into a toddler elephant in a 365 days and that i'll guarentee that he's not the proper searching or acceptable weight both. adult men are more desirable smooth then women persons trust it or no longer so possibly he's gloomy about something to do with him so that is why he's popping it round onto u. Dont change who u are to delight somebody else.
2016-11-25 21:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow him to treat you this way leave his sorry a** and find someone who loves you for who you are and who does not care about what you look like on the outside but instead what he sees in the inside. Don't let his comments of you being overweight get to you because then he will know what will make you feel down and will cause your self esteem to drop and this is not good. You should not think about losing weight unless you yourself want to not because he wants you to. Remember you are beautiful the way you are.
2006-09-08 15:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump This Asshole!
Come on anyone who tells you to lose weight is a jerk and WHY would you even want to stay with them. You make yourself more healthy for you always NEVER someone else!
Get rid of this guy and find someone who appreciates you for you and not because you have some extra pounds.
Now if you are depressed that is something that you have to work on, but it will not get better with a jerk off like him around. By the way did I say DUMP HIS ***!!!!
2006-09-08 15:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lose weight for yourself, not for him. He should be supportive and help you lose weight. Together you should chose healthier foods to eat and go for jogs in the neighbourhood. It's your body and you should want it to be in the best shape it can be. If your boyfriend won't devote his time and effort toward helping you achieve this goal, then he isn't worth your attention.
Good luck :) Remember, nobody cares about the number on the scale. They care about what they can see. If your body is tight and lean, you could weigh 30 pounds more than you did and he'll think you look like a godess :)
2006-09-08 15:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get rid of him!
I know that in a relationship, phsyical attraction can be important but what is more essential and important is personality and the way you click with one another.
If he really cared about you, he wouldn't have told you to loose weight the way that he did.
If he loved you he would probably suggest that the both of you eat healthier and go to a gym TOGETHER as a team, so this way he is concerned about your weight but you know he isn't embarrased to be seen with you and is willing to help you along the way.
2006-09-08 15:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never lose weight or do something that changes who you are for someone else. If you want to lose weight, then decide if you're doing it because it's your decision or because of his pressure. I don't know how your bf said it, but clearly it was insulting to you. Maybe he meant it that way, and maybe he didn't. But, let him know that it made you feel bad, and see what he does about it. If he doesn't care that it made you feel bad then you don't need to be with that kind of person anyways. You need to be with someone that respects you. Or, it could have been that if you are overweight, he's just trying to help you.
Either way remember....do it for you! =)
2006-09-08 15:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by it's me! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the boyfriend. easier said than done, but if he loves you, he will come back with much less of an attitude about your weight. There are so many other people out there who will love you for you. This one sounds a bit immature. Set him free and if it was meant to be, he will return to you.
2006-09-08 15:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by billslady66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does not love you completely for who you are right now - then leave him. Never change yourself for someone else. Perhaps he doing it as a means for control. The ONLY instance in which this sort of thing might be ok is if you had a condition such as diabetes and your weight was affecting your health - and he was worried about you and your health (and not about how you look).
2006-09-08 15:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by ALLaboutDC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the extra weight? Does it bother you? If it does, lose it. If it doesn't, then your boyfriend can take it or leave it unless you want to make that sacrifice for him.
2006-09-08 15:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** him if he does not love u 4 who u r anymore then break up u can do so much better than him find a new man that loves u 4 who u r not what u look like
2006-09-08 15:09:22 · answer #11 · answered by ***** K K ***** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋