I've been in a relationship for about 6 months now. He initiated a monogomous commitment and said the "love" word about 2 months ago. Then, 2 weeks ago he was hospitalized with a serious infection and had surgery. He's out of the hospital now - but ever since that point he's been somewhat distant (he plays lots of online games while we're together and chats with his friends). I can tell that something is wrong but he won't tell me anything. I sense he may be a bit depressed and still in pain (btw - he refuses to take pain medicine). THEN - I saw a posting he recently made in an online forum (we're both active members) - and he referred to himself as "single and confused." What is going on? Should I give him some space?
2006-09-08 14:38:45 · 12 answers · asked by ALLaboutDC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the advice everyone. This is helpful - really.
2006-09-08 16:25:33 · update #1
then that's what he see's himself as, single and confused. He obviously questions a relationship with you. He's in pain yeah, but if he's not on the pain drugs, then he's got no excuse for being strange.
What i'd tell you to do is, TALK to him about it. If he doesn't want to talk then the answer is SIMPLE. He doesn't want a relationship anymore. So in the case, give him space an treat it like a unspoken Break. (ex: dont call him, let him call you)
If he doesn't wanna talk, he is just being immature and doesn't want to tell you straight up. Communication is the key to a relationship, without it, then you have nothing. (along with trust)
2006-09-08 14:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by help! 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm going through something similar right now. Honestly, I would just continue to do what you're doing right now: leave him alone. Let your boyfriend come to you, and if after a long time he doesn't (maybe a week or so), I would contact him to touch base. If he still wants his space, I would evaluate your relationship with him. I think that there is a difference between respecting what your boyfriend is asking you, and respecting your needs too. So, for now, just leave him be. :)
2016-03-27 03:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, he is going through a phase. Did you not see him at the hospital or something? Because if you didn't, that could have easily been the reason, he would have been in the hospital the whole time thinking about you and you never came. If that's not the case, maybe during his time at the hospital he got to thinking... and yeah, give him a bit of space, then take it back, rinse and repeat and wish for the best.
2006-09-08 14:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's STILL single and confused.
You should not be in a live-in relationship without the long term commitment in effect. What were you thinking when you shacked up with him and he hadn't even told you he loved you, yet?. Wasn't that a good sign 6 months ago??
Yes, give him space.
But be kind.
2006-09-08 14:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is totally wierd, but i think that he isnt interested in the relationship as much anymore. maybe he really is confused about what he wants, but that shouldnt stop u from being happy. if the relationship is bothering you more than its making you happy, then i would end it. If he gets over all his problems and wants another chance afterward, then why not, but i dont think you should suffer emotionally and miss out on the whole point of a relationship just because of him.
2006-09-08 14:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex always makes me feel better... but in your case youve hit that 6month -12month line where your find out if your going to stay together or have a change of heart.... i say play it cool.. yeah its going to suck.. but not all the cards are on the table.. give him 2 weeks. and if he is still acting a donkey.. ask him.. as far as the pain meds go.. i dont like taking them either.. so that doesnt have anything to do with it... i dont like the way they make me feel... or while he is sitting on the couch playing his games.. you join in and play with him.. find an easy game you can play.. and play for clothing.. its kinky and fun... it might of just lost his mojo thats all
2006-09-08 14:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by tru1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step back alittle if he is feeling the need to look else where clinging to him will only make it worse.
2006-09-08 14:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by lvwire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him since he feels single and confused then that what he should be and leave his butt.
2006-09-08 14:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, back away and let him figure out what he really wants
2006-09-08 14:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sydney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there something really wrong, dont just ignore it find out whats up
2006-09-08 14:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by waysexy26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋