2006-09-08 14:36:37 · 38 answers · asked by ritalcar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't spank him. You are teaching him to hit! He doesn't understand why you are spanking him. It is better to distract him and he won't know that you have changed his behavior.
2006-09-08 14:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pey 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋
First of all, what are you doing spanking an 18 month old? Not that I think a slight spanking is a bad thing, just that spanking an 18 month old is crazy.
The best thing to do is give him a time out on a chair and make sure he stays there for a short time and that he knows why he is there. Spanking does no good at 18 months old.
2006-09-08 14:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
spanking a kid whos 18 month old is sickest thing i have ever heard i dont know what is cooking in your mind but let me tell you one thing 18 month old dont even know who he is and all the psycologist in the world arent fool to say that spanking only teach to spank when your mad and thats exactly whats going with you if you love your baby and if talk him in a poliete way and tell him that this is wrong he will stop doing it..you might think that you are maintaining dicipline but you dont know that you are growing the feeling you can beat but you cant kill inside your lil babies stick with time-outs or start a reward system do whatevr dont spank a 18 month old try to understand me what im saying its not good to spank a 18 month old they are too innocent..let me tell you what it can cause...
1. Do you really want your kids to be afraid of you?
Kids will sometimes obey more readily when they're afraid of you. Is this what you really want? What happens when you’re not around? What happens when they're six feet two, and two hundred pounds? Effective parenting is based on love and respect, not fear.
2. Spanking shows your kids that you lack self-control
3. You may breed resentment and anger in your kids
thats why its bad to spank a 18 month old
2006-09-08 23:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by cool k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my son. When he decided to "spank" me back I would just put him in time out for 1 1/2 minutes. You have to understand that while spanking him you are teaching him that is how to deal with his problems. I spank my son when he needs it, so i am not judging you. But it makes life alittle easier when you know why they act the way they do. Also get down to his level and explain why he got a spanking, and that you didn't do anything wrong, therefore you did not deserve a spanking from him. Also be sure to discouraging him from handing out punishments, (my son would try to punish his friends when he was mad) it is a tricky situation, but be persistant and don't let him get away with it, not even once. This is the age where they are learning what is acceptable and what is not. good luck
2006-09-08 22:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by KELLY 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop spanking him/her. The child isn't even two years old. You are teaching him/her to hit. Children learn byu example. There is no reason to spank a baby that young. Even time outs are inappropriate at that age. Try positive reinforcement. Maybe look into some local parenting classes.
2006-09-12 13:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by priss879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's copying you that what 18 month year olds do. How about you don't spank him? Put him somewhere safe and walk away. I have a 22 month old boy and I know how frustrating it can be, but he's still a baby and learning - so don't hit him. A firm no will sooner or later will work.
2006-09-11 19:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by trinity2379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should not be spanking an eighteen month old child. He is hitting you back because he is not old enough to understand why you are hitting him, so he is reacting in a logical fashion. If should speak to a professional, preferably his pediatrician. If the doctor is any good, he will help treat you also.
Physical violence begets physical violence, so you child may very well develop behavioral problems in the future and can become a violet type of person. You could cure this now by handling the situation differently. If in the future you son gets in trouble for his physical behavior, remember your question and blame the person you see in the mirror tonight!
2006-09-08 14:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Why are you spanking a 18 month old? I'm not against spanking a child but I do think that is too young. Try deverting his attention to something else.
2006-09-08 14:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by couchP56 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 18 months he probably does not understand why you are hitting him so its natural for him to hit you back. You and him can have a hit-feast where you take turns hitting each other until one of you gives up. Unless he has done something that has grave consequences, I would suggest you try another method of discipline. At that age telling him not to do something with a serious look on your face can work. The holding technique also works.
2006-09-08 14:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Tulipa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thats why is disagree with spanking on a regular basis. Try timeouts or taking toys or away. You hiting your son, makes him think that its ok to hit back. The only time I spank my boys is when they are getting themselves in a dangerous situation, like trying to run out in the street or touch a hot stove.
2006-09-08 14:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, are you spanking over a diaper If so, you are wasting you time lady never spank a child when there a baby., you mean lady
2006-09-12 13:08:00 · answer #11 · answered by piekingamerica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋