My daughter,13, is very talented at the piano but she is a perfectionist and if she can't play the songs she practices perfectly she cries and cries and it hurts my heart but I DON'T WANT HER TO GIVE UP!She's been taking lessons for almost 6 years now.
2006-09-08 14:27:20 · 8 answers · asked by mutter3 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Ah! I know that feeling very well. I play flute and piano, and I get exactly the same way.
First of all, if she starts having trouble, tell her to take a break. Sometimes it helps to get away from it for a while. A little piece of advice that's always helped me out in those kind of situations is "Play slowly" Play through the piece at half speed, spend time on the tricky bits until you feel confidant in them. It helps. I know that kind of strayed from the question... sorry.
In regards to the question, why don't you want her to give up? If she feels like she's gone as far as she wants to, let her stop. Trust me, no good ever comes of parents forcing their child to play an instrument when they have no interest in it. If she truly loves playing, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Frustration happens to every musician, but as along as she loves making music, she'll be fine. Give her that advice, it truly does help. I've been playing Flute for 11 years and I live by those words. (Ive only just started Piano, but the same holds true)
2006-09-08 14:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Diva Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your daughter so critical about being perfect? You practice to learn and be your best. Practice is where you make mistakes and you learn from them. I think it's up to her at this point.
She might just need a break for awhile. I am just a little worried about the crying. Is her piano teacher doing this? doesn't make sense that she would cry for something like that.
My daughter played the clarinet so I know about music and she still plays. But she never cried about making mistakes--May be there is something else bothering her.
2006-09-08 14:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her u met me and I played since I was 5 years old,I use to hate lessons once a week,but,I stuck with it coz my mother made me and at 45 I can sit down and enjoy entertaining my mom,dad,son.and 2 grandbabies!Piano is the soul to all music and she should keep it up,she will be glad she did,matbe give her a small break from it but,tell here she must go back into playing!Only special people know how to play!
2006-09-08 14:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something really important that i realized after crying and throwing my piano books out of the window several times. Just tell her she shoud do it for pleasure, encourage her to enjoy it instead of suffering it. Music is not easy, but if you learn how to really enjoy what you are doing it´s a lot less hard. Oh and something that might help her a LOT is a book called The inner game of music by Barry Green it really helped me. You can look for it at amazon.com or Barnes and Noble.
2006-09-08 15:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her into some hipper music lessons...say using the piano to play popular songs, not classical. It might relax her enough to realize that she doesn't have to be perfect...just good enough to make pleasing music.
2006-09-08 14:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find her a friend with the same hobby
2006-09-08 17:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by merakesh_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that perfectionism is an unrealistic expectation.
She is doomed to failure
modify expectations and relish accomplishment
2006-09-08 14:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage her, reward her, let her work at her own pace
2006-09-08 14:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by MstrChief55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋