Cutting...?

Question

I have started cutting myself not too long ago..I don't know why I even started. I get great grades in school, have a loving family, and a bunch of friends. But sometimes I guess I feel a little stessed out, like in school and at home. I just feel like I want to scream really loudly, or just suddenly burst out crying. I can't help when or where the feelings come, they just do. And then when I get really stressed out, I grab my scissors and cut my arm. I have a bunch of cutting marks on it. I don't know how to stop this, somebody help me?

I'm terrified to talk my parents, they'd probably yell and me and ask why I didn't ask for help earlier. How can I confront them about this?

Answer 1

You are using cutting to try and regulate your emotions. You already know that hile you may feel relief. it really does not solve anything. I encourage you to tell your parents. Most of the time if you can get your parents to support you and you want to stop this you ca,n. I would encourage you to do this ASAP. You could ask for someone else to be there if you are worried about telling your parents alone (a friend or another relative). You can tell them before you tell them what you are going to tell them, that you want to see a counselor because you are feeling a lot of stress. Tell them, " There is something I need guidance on but I am scared to tell you because it will upset you and I am feeling so lousy that I will really feel bad if we argue/fight". Do expect them to be upset. No matter how old you are, your parents always are going to be protective of you since you are their child. You might also want to gather up all the things you cut with and give the items to them. That shows you are telling to geth help. Just thinking about telling your secret is admirable. However, there is a part of you crying out for help. Since you are conflicted (sometimes hurthing yoursel/wanting help) you have to expect that others in your lifeare going to be confused by what you are doing...but tell them! Don't be scared of their reactions...do what you need to do to get well!

Answer 2

I can definitely relate to you, because I have a cutting problem too, but I stopped recently. It takes time, but it just depends on how you set your mind. I have been seeing a therapist and it's really helping a lot. Just talking about my problem to my family also helped. Even if it's scary at first, just merely talking about it to somebody who cares, like your family, helps a great deal more than you'd think. Now if I'm stressed out, I do things that I enjoy--playing the piano or drawing. After a little while of doing these, I don't feel so stressed out anymore. It may lead to suicide or something much more serious if you don't try to stop, and it's best to get help right away.

Answer 3

you sound like a nice person who's having trouble coping with stress. it's important that you sort this out soon, because it can get very addictive, and before you know it there's no other way you know of to cope when you're stressed and you'll end up cutting more and more.

lots of useful alternatives to cutting - holding ice or drawing on your arm instead but it usually helps to have someone to turn to as well. get a hotline number (like samaritans or someth) and keep it around you.

sometimes its easier to go to a school counsellor or doctor first and ask for help. parents are a great idea, but you need to be gentle with them and understand that they might be pretty upset at first to hear about this. it's great that you can say you;ve a loving family - give them time and they'll probably be more help to you than all the drugs and therapy in the world.

and it's not even a little sexy to cut yourself (to the mindless person who wrote that earlier).

Answer 4

cutting yourself is NOT sexy like the idiot remarked. You can seek help by talking to a counselor or a friend. Don't hurt yourself with cutting because what you really need is to find a way to destress in a good way. Why don't you take up some kind of daily exercise. If you feel like cutting, just go on a jog instead and you will feel better - I PROMISE because the running will send endorphines into your brain to relieve the stress.

Answer 5

... is bad. cutting really doesn't make things better. it's just makign things worse. what you need to do first is get professional help, because that is the best way to get better. the fact that you want to stop is a great first step. next, you need to find someone else, a friend or relative ... someone whom you trust completely, and who you can turn to when you want to say something. some of my friends who went through the same thing said that that was important because then they had a healthy outlet for frustration, and they could say whatever was on their mind. good luck, you've got your whole life ahead of you ... enjoy it

Answer 6

I know how hard it is to tell an adult...been there still fighting the battle but with a much worse life and past so honey put down the survivors throw them away restrict yourself put them up use a rubber band I know the rubber band doesn't hurt the same but it'll help if you need help kik me amandaloumartin

Answer 7

Sounds like early signs of depression. You could probably use a little cognitive behavior therapy. Find a psychologist who specializes in this treatment method and/or get this book:
http://www.seekwellness.com/bookstore/books/book65.htm

Answer 8

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but i starded cutting like in the 7th grade (i think) but that was like 3 years ago. but anything that makes you upset/sad, mad/angry, depressed, stressed w/e could cause it. but it could be the tiniest thing too but its easy to quit, or so ive been told

Answer 9

Everyoe has stress problems. Sometimes I wan to cry to and I just cry and pull myself together. Try doing something that you think will help you destress yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 10

No offense but people on the internet can't really help you with this problem, you need to visit a psychiatrist. I mean that's really how you could solve the problem. But if your life is so great then why are you stressed out? Well good luck, and please seek help and stop hurting yourself, there's always someone there to help you out, you know.