this guy i've been dating for about two months has a very busy job he is a drill instructor we have been very close and enjoy our time together when he gets a few hours off he had a three day vacation and he hasn't called me I work with drill instructors and the job they do is tiring so i believe that he's just resting but people at my job are saying that he's married and that's why he hasn't called he told me that he's not married and never been married i don't know what to believe one time some girl called me saying that she was his wive and when i wanted to ask her questions about their marriage she said she doesn't know the answer so she is not answering any questions which was very wierd i confronted him about it and he said that was a crazy ex girlfriend of his who stole his phone while he was drunk at a friends house i later found out who the girl was and we resolved that i am soo confused because usually he would call and his phone goes straight to voicemail...need advice
2006-09-08 13:57:03 · 17 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out! ask him or ask someone you trust!
2006-09-08 14:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's not giving you the attention you want. At this point the fact that he's married, has another girl on the side, or is just flat out not paying attention to you is irrelevant.
You need to decide if you are gonna be happy if this is the most attention he's gonna pay for you. If the answer is yes then deal with it and decide to be happy. If the answer is no then drop him and move on.
Believe me its easier to make this decision now two months in than 1, 2, or 4 years down the road. Guys don't change. Two months in he's no longer trying to impress you (in a matter of speaking). This is who he is and the time he is giving you right now is what he's gonna give you.
You at this point have the choice to make, and how you behave as a result, will tell him wether its okay or not for him to behave this way.
Its a sucky realization but it is what it is. My hopes are that he really does care for you and when you talk to him he'll understand and give you what you want but if he doesn't that's his loss. You have plenty of other guys to choose from!!!
good luck and best wishes!
2006-09-08 21:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by bluemidnightbeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to ask why people are saying he is married...casue the know for a fact or are just speculating. If they know for a fact...you drop him no matter what or hoe hard. It's not worth your feelings for it. If it has been a while since he is called then I would leave it alone. Sorry to be so blunt, but he may not be that into anymore or may be dating someone else. He could be busy and if you think thats the case...no matter how hard, don't call let him call you. Not sure how many times you have called, but I'm sure he still has your # and if he is still interested in that way he'll give you a ring. Don't sweat stuff you have no control over. I hope the best for you!!
2006-09-08 21:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else!
QUICK!!!
Even if it was a crazy ex. You just don't need that drama in your life. The 2 biggest causes of divorce in the military are the MOS of drill instructor & recruiter. He needs to be out of that career inhancing position before he gets into a relationship. If he's in the BOQ, he's not going to take you (usually, although I've spent a few nights there.) If he's off post, there's no excuse not to take you to his place.
Soon, he'll get his promotion, PCS elsewhere & leave you behind. You just dont need the drama!
2006-09-08 20:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Fulltime in my RV (I wish) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ..something is definitely going on there! I don't know how long you two have been dating. Ask yourself the obvious questions. Have you met his family? Can you stop by his house whenever you want? Do you have all the possible phone numbers where he can be reached? ALL those have to be a yes! Why has he not call you... ? If he loved you and had NO..wife....HE..would be right there with you..and he is not..! PLEASE open your eyes...I'm sure you have that feeling deep down.(It's called female intuition). And don't get me wrong.. I'm the first one to tell women to trust their man, and not to be annoyingly jealous... BUT.. I think your case is different! I think YOU..deserve BETTER!! Follow your instincts..and find out....YOU OWE YOURSELF THAT MUCH!! GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-08 21:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we caught up in a relationship, we only want to believe everything a guy tells us because love is blind. Listen to your friends, they usually know best. I think he is married too. Even if he's not, you deserve someone who will be there for you. He sounds like he is emotionally unavailable to you. It's time to move on and find someone who be there for you and only you. Good luck!
2006-09-08 21:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say run like heck something is rotten in Ga... girlfriend men use us and we don't like it but it can only happen if we allow it.. if you really want to persue this man do some real checkin on him... sounds a little like if you heard he is married it might just be so........
2006-09-08 21:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump that f.u.c.k.e.r!
guys suck at lying.. if you have that feeling somethings going on.. dig into it.. dont let it pass you by girl
i know
girls have like a 6sence and they know when something is wrong..something is really wrong!
find out first and see whats going on..but don't tell him nothing till you get to the bottom of it
2006-09-08 21:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like him whether he is married or not it's ok to know him more.but if things get worst move on and get over it.in the 1st place personal questions are not that hard to answer so why the hell he did'nt reply to your questions.for sure he has secrets
2006-09-08 21:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by witchangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one way to find out, ask him to take you to his place. If he's not married, it won't be a problem. If he won't do it, you have your answer.
2006-09-08 20:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is for sure something wrong with the picture you are painting.He does not sound truthful and has poor character.lose him before it gets worse.
2006-09-08 21:01:31 · answer #11 · answered by ben 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋