he's my 1st ex-bf. i broke up with him 5yrs ago. we were both too immature then.. 'got a lot of misunderstandngs but no 3rd party involved though. he askd me back few mos after the break up but i declined. probably at some point i was hurt & so was he..i don't want to get bck to him & do the same mistake again. i jst needed time for myself..we still see each other though at times as frnds. until such time words spread out extremely fast that i already have a bf..it was true&i confirmed it to him..it has been almost a yr after we broke up when i had my 2nd bf.. we've been 2gethr for almost 4 long yrs! he broke my heart..we ended up apart.. & i found comfort from my 1st ex-bf. i don't know why..bt it seems like all these yrs, he's still special to me..i trust him. i know we once loved each other. it just that it came at the wrong time. it really bothered me so i gathered enuf courage 2 ask him if i'm still special 2 him or he just sees me as a frnd..he told me that i'm still special but he has to set priorities.. he's still finishing studies (2nd course).. but if ever he's gonna be with some1, he told me, it's gonna be me..i don't know what to feel.. flattered, hurt....at times i askd him out, but he, most of the time, declined...i dn't understand...y is he doin this 2me?? wat should i do? was he too hurt when we broke up & just bein cautious?? pls advice....
2006-09-08 13:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he was hurt during the break up and after the break up and when you rejected him. However, when you went out with someone else it shows you dont realy care about them infact you are showing them you moved on. And it hurts, well i went through the same thing. But in my case, it the total opposite. And today i still love him and i know i always will. However, it was never meant to be. Maybe he is upset about something. Ask him whats happening. Just talk it out. I hope everything works out.
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2006-09-08 13:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by .·´¯`·-> вавіі-ѕнаz <-·´¯` 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is you comfort zone .. you run back when you are hurt by someone else.. it is probably time to move on and let go.. also sounds like he really isn't into you like you need... i'm sure he was hurt as were you and sometimes it is just better to be friends .. so perhaps this is where the two of you stand.. really search your heart and make sure it isn't just a need for someone close to help you heal.. sometimes a good friend girl friend rather than an ex can also be your best means to help.. .don't waste your life on something that is most likely over.....
2006-09-08 13:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by sandi4551 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seem like he doesn't have all the answer himself.Sometimes being apart from someone you learn to grow up.People need time to think about relationships what direction they are going.It is very important to make right choices,rushing into a relationship is bad for both partners.Take one day&step at a time.Over the years people become mature &thiere priorities become a goal.Look to see where you both made mistakeslearn &grow from them.How was your life with him? How was your life without him.Do you have regrets for not being more open about your relationship with him.The whole key to a relationship is communitcation7feelings&honesty.
2006-09-08 14:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by gen m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ....im kind of goin thru the same stuff u r it sounds like but with my ex it was my 2nd gf and shes with sombody right now but after 4 months i would have forgotten her ya kno but she still is in my heart and i kno that we both did fall in love ............right now i have been prayin to God that he could just help fix things that needs to be fix so that we may be together again .....cause we kinda had some prob when we started datin and we never took the time to take care of them ..............all i can say is if u believe in God just pray it might take some time ( but from the sound of it sounds like u have had a long time) but in the end if its Gods will then u 2 will be together again if not then there will prob be sombody better .......i kno its really hard to believe that even i have the same thought that its impossible for me an my ex but i still have faith and for me i just dont kno how to give up ^_^
(hehe sorry for the long advice if i even gave any ^_^; sorry)
2006-09-08 14:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by talldudeforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want raw honesty? He's either not interested in dating you anymore or he's seeing someone else. Your 18 and have your whole life to live. Move on to someone that begs for your love, not someone that runs from it!
2016-03-27 03:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That was confusing. You sound young and I can remember being young and in love. It took me 8 years to get over my first boyfriend completely. Or at least that is what I thought. He was a jerk and very bad to me and even worse for me. After so many years of being hurt and afraid of other men, I came to a truly amazing realization. I did not have to get over him. I had to get over myself - what I mean is that I had to take the time to truly heal myself after this rotten relationship. The first thing you wrote was that you didn't wan to get back together with him and wanted time for yourself. Trust your gut. It's usually right.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to feel all the feelings you need to feel. I wish you luck.
2006-09-08 13:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by RiverGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all the separation between you two and you both still care very much for each other I don't see any problems at all. let him do his studies and you should feel flattered , you should be happy about his feelings for you. let him finish his schooling and then take it from there.
2006-09-08 13:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first "love" is ALWAYS special..especially if things were really good.
apologize for hurting him..because you didn't mean to, just get to be friends again..people change in yrs.. no matter what.
give yourself time to think about this..don't let it hunt your mind
relax and take it easy
only time will tell what will happen and you have to be patient
2006-09-08 13:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is too long to read so I am going to take 2 pts for trying.
2006-09-08 13:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by BadAdvice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its ment to be then yall will end up together if not then least you can find love some place else
2006-09-08 13:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by richards_girl24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋