My daughter is 5years old, and going to kindergarten....?

Question

my question is am I a worried mom? Or a good mom. My daughters class has 20 kids in it and it is a public school. But the thing is when I drop her off at school, all the other parents just leave there kids there, all alone, no adults!! They are alone for 10-15 minutes befor the bell rings. I am the only parent that sits with the kids. ( I live in Utah, and here we just had a 5 year old girl abducted and killed.) so this freeks me out. am I crazy or right?

oh ya and the place all the 5 year olds meet is outside!!!1

Answer 1

You are not a worried mom. That is a very good concern. I have a question though. Why isn't someone, like a teacher or an assistant, right there while the parents are dropping off their kids? I am an assistant in a 5K class and the assistants all have duties. Some get there early in the morning and stand in the hallway and one is out front watching the kids get out of their cars and go inside. There is always someone directing the kids on where to go. If you have nothing like that in place at your school, maybe you can get that addressed to the school board or principal or someone that can get some action in place. Also it is the same way at dismissal at my school.
Also there is a website you can checkout that will tell you of any sex offenders around the school. All you have to do is enter the address also you can check out your neighborhood. Just do a search for Family Watchdog. I hope you and everyone else finds this helpful.

Answer 2

You are so right to be concerned. There are so many parents out there who just dont think about the concequences of leaving children alone. In kindergarten especially there should always be a supervisor present. I would definaly conplain to the principal and then the superintendent if nothing comes of it. There is too much going on nowadays with abductions and such to be leaving our children alone for even a second. I wont even let my 8 year old son go very far (without him in my sight). You are a great parent and maybe one day parents will wake up and start being VERY cautious.

Answer 3

I do the same thing and my son is in grade 2. I don't look at it as over paranoid or crazy, you are playing it "better safe than sorry" Not saying the other parents are bad parents, because most schools do have supervision and there are alot of people who have both parents at work now a days. When My son was in kindergarden I'd walk him right up to the door and meet him at the door to pick him up, slowly I'm backing away, this year I sit in my car and watch him go in when the bell rings. If your child was in junior high school then I'd say ya you need to give them more space and trust... but kindergarden is way to young!! Don't worry about it... I don't really care what the parents think about my methods, and I try not to judge theres either!!!

Answer 4

You're right. Stay until there are adults present. I'd rather be thought over-protective than take a chance. You may even want to contact the principal of the school. At the school that I worked at, the teachers and aides were on a rotating schedule of playground duty in the mornings, fifteen minutes before the bell rang. At least three adults would be there, two of whom would be certified. If this school doesn't have this, it's something worth talking about. Even parent volunteers would work. Good luck.

Answer 5

My daughter also just started kindergarten this year and all of the parents just come and drop off their children here too. But here the kids can't be dropped off unless it is 7:45am and then the parent has to take them into the office and sign them in, from there they are able to go into the cafeteria to wait until 8:00am when they are allowed to go into the classrooms. No, I don't think you are crazy. Honestly, I don't even let my child ride the school bus because of all the stuff that has happened on the buses too. Too me that seems like too much of a chance and I am not willing to take that chance just yet.

Answer 6

No teachers on duty to supervise?? How strange. Maybe check with the school, perhaps they have rules regarding drop off times and/or places. And check if having supervision on school grounds is part of their routine. If not, then take part in the PTA to encourage them to do so, or complain to the school system.

A lot could happen in 15 minutes without supervison. Someone could get hurt, kids could decide to skip school, or even the most horrific--an abduction. Make these arguments when you approach the school system. Hopefully they'll do something about it.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

You should be concerned. Kids are so easily lured into horrible situations. You are a great parent!

My godson and goddaughter are that same age and there are known sex ofenders in the neighborhood. Other people let thier 6 and 7 yr. olds run the streets in this neighborhood. I dont even like my goddaughter to be running around in the front yard in her bathing suit!

It is definatley better to be safe than sorry. Too many parents dont watch where their kids are. Whenever a kid has something horrible happen to them, the parent always says "I just turned around or left for a second".

Keep up the good work and be an example to the other parents! =)

Answer 8

You need to bring this to the attention of the principal and the principal has to send notices home to all parents saying "no drop off before . Suggest that an faculty member be outside 15 mins before bell rings as well either to supervise the kids that are STILL dropped off early or to face parents and tell them it's still too early and notices were sent home.

Answer 9

I think that you are doing the right thing. I have a son who is in the 1st grade and I still wait with him and so do about 1/2 of the other 1st grade parents. I think that it's crazy that some parents leave their kids without checking that they get to school and class. Do what feels right and safe to you.

Answer 10

There really should be adults watching them... I would stay with them too just in case! Someone could get abducted or hurt so I would inform the principle about the situation! :) I think your doing the right thing for a good reason but don't freak out to much okay!
Good luck with everything!