Does anyone who has a stepfather, hate his guts as much as I hate mine?

Question

He makes my life hell. If u have a stepfather how does he treat you and do u like him. Any advice with how to deal?

Answer 1

To your first question, YES. My solution was to survive long enught o grow up, leave home and let him die a miserable and lonely old person.

Answer 2

My parents split up when I was very young; like before I started kindergarten. My dad remarried relatively soon, as far as I can remember. My mother, however, did not get remarried until I was in the third grade. The three of us kids bounced back and forth between the two several times before my mom got remarried. I remember having some pretty strong opinions of both my stepmother and stepfather while I was growing up. My sister still has a strong dislike for our stepmother, and my brother has some opinions about stepfather. Since I have grown up I have developed an appreciation for what they where trying to do. I have long since dropped my dislike for them and now am pretty anxious to get my two little girls back home to meet the set of grandparents that they have not yet met. My father and stepmother was able to come over to visit them, but my stepfather has a degenerative neurological disease and there is no telling when his brain is going to send one of his vital organs the wrong message and he will be gone. I have a strong respect for him now and I really want him to be able to see his grandchildren before it is too late. It is often hard to accept the fact that our parents move on and start other relationships. The new partner to our parents can never really take our true parents place and sometimes we drive that point home a little stronger then we need. I think that as long as the stepparent is not abusing us in any way and is truly trying to give us a good life, the least we can do is give them a chance. Plus, remember, you will not always be living with them. Some day you will be on your own and how you fell about them won’t really matter any more because they will no longer have any say in your life. :-)

Answer 3

I really hated my step mom. I mean HATE! She was the other woman and I felt that she really wanted to take the place of my mom. It was really bad there for a while but somehow I muddled thru it.

Now that I'm 30 and married I realize that it was my father that screwed around on my mom and that wasn't my stepmom's fault. I also realized that it was my father who wanted to replace my mom with this other woman.

Its really hard to step parent. You are an adult and you really want to help guide your spouses kids in the right direction. But you're not their parent. And that is the problem. Sometimes step parents will over step their bounds its part of being human.

Now that I am an adult with kids of my own I am glad that they have so many grandparents. They have 4 grandmas and 4 grandpas. They are so loved. And looking back on my life with my stepmom I remember how she taught me how to can, and that time we all went camping. Yeah I also remember all the times she got my dad to do things that he would never have done before. But I was never abused and I don't know anyone who didn't hate their parents when they were young.

If your step dad is hitting you you need to tell someone right now and get out of that situation. But that doesn't sound like your situation. Try looking at it from his point of view and talk with him. Tell him how you feel but use the phrase " when you do x it makes me feel like y". Let him know that you don't like living this way but that you want to figure out a way that will make you both happy ( or at least less unhappy).

Good luck.

Answer 4

Well I don't have a stepfather but I am a stepmother. My stepdaughter hated her stepdad and ended up moving in with us. Her stepdad treated her mother very badly and they both are alcoholics. She couldn't stand their partying and his abusive behavior so she would stay at friends houses when she could or come to her dad's house to stay sometimes for the weekend. She then musterd enough courage to tell her mom that she was leaving and moving in with her dad. Sadly enough her mother was furious at her for doing this but not because she was leaving her home but because she would no longer receive money for her. So to make things easier for her we told her mother we not stop paying support to her over there. Her mother never called again. She still resents her daughter for having chosen to live with her dad but she graduated from high school and became a vet tech, is happily married and owns her own home (she's 23) her brother and sister that stayed with her mom became parents as teenagers, drink excessively, do drugs, and can not leave the welfare system. So what I 'm trying to tell you is that there are two sides to every coin. You decide to leave and it may be worse or better. If the guy is just annoying and not abusive then ignore him and get through with school so that you can get a job and leave. Find your own apartment and start to live your own life. Don't make your mom choose over yourself and her husband that never ends up good. Good luck to you and hang in there!

Answer 5

I am 40 now, but mine raised me from about 6 to 13. He is an awful awful man. One by one all 6 of us (4 of my moms kids and TWO OF HIS OWN) left cuz he was soo unbearable. If we werent being beaten, there was the threat of a beating. he never hit my mother, but scared the hell out of her. And the s.o.b HAS NOT CHANGED. i have love in my heart for everyone I know, past and present, living or dead, but that man I truly feel hatred for. Probably will until I die. We are all just praying he will die b4 mom so she can live in peace. She won't leave now, she worked too hard to walk away with nothing... I'm sorry to say theres really nothing you can do. Try & keep the peace. Good luck to you, you're in my prayers.

Answer 6

I had a stepfather and I had him arrested for molesting my older sister... I hated him even when my mom and him were dating...I thank god every day that my mom and dad are now back together, after 26 years of fighting and hell they finally made it work... Dont give up hope and keep praying that helps... Good luck hon

Answer 7

Just dont worry too much about it I thought my step mom hated me I would do anything for her to like me. After like 9 months I didnt try as hard and now I think we are closer. If you dont like your step dad ask him why do you make my life hell? And dont make a big deal about it. Just join a sport or get a job so you arent around him so much.

Answer 8

i did and he now rests hopefully not in peace (lol) he made my life hell every chance he got. I got very tired of multiple lectures about bad grades, when i had the best in the house, and even more fun was being punished for things everyone else did wrong. but i fixed his case several yrs down the road when he tried to molest me and i screamed loud enough to alert the neighbors, after that he lost his "perfect looking " standard in the eyes of the local "big" shots and to top that he was an alcoholic and i used to be the one to find his hidden stashes and turn them over to my mom....yeah i punished but at least i was able to get him back....the like someone else said look to the future where you can be the best you can be.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I've had 4 step dads. They were all jerks and I hated all of them. Just learn from your moms mistakes and cope with her until she also learns. It's hard, but that's life.