We live in a shallow world, there's no question about it. A world that seems to be obsessed with some superficial idea of love. Every time i turn on the radio i hear it, every time i turn on the TV, i see it. Should we be rushing into plenty of relationships or just spend time getting to know ourselves? I personally have never been in a serious relationship and i've never felt the need too be. As people, do we need to signify our existance through the existance of another person? I'd like to hear your opinion on the matter.
2006-09-08 13:13:43 · 31 answers · asked by Aniatario 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The whole idea is that we should know ourselves before even thinking of being in a caring, or even physical relationship with someone. There are some who have to be with a partner in order to feel complete (almost like the twin syndrome, lol). But then there are others who prefer sharing apart of themselves and sharing (key word) experiences and life with another person. And when they really get to the highest level of selflessness, they decide to bring children into the world. So are love and romance necessary? No. But just like having sympathy and empathy; it's not needed, but it sure makes life that much more pleasant.
2006-09-08 13:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so right but the heart doesnt want to believe it.
But it is true that our existence depends on existence of the others. All we know and meet. All we dont know and dont meet. We are all connected in a way or the other. Our connection with some is evident, with some it is not.
Therefore, we dont exist all on our own. No one is the mirror of my existence but we are upheld by the others. They are our stanchions, materially or emotionally.
Now there are some people in life, who continue to be your prop when others are gone.
This is the meaning of relationship.
It is not what we see and hear on TV or radio. It is more of our experience. It is something that goes beyond logic and calculations.
And I am sure, there is a time in everyones life when it is not the matter of need. It becomes a part of life.
2006-09-08 20:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Akshat S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want with your life. Don't let society tell you what to do.
I think that Love and Relationships are very necessary over the course of life but some people have less needs in this area than others and you sound like one of them. Nothing wrong with that.
Also it is definately not necessary to ALWAYS be in a relationship. Sometimes it is actually better to be alone that in a bad relationship and as you state it is good to get to know yourself and pursue goals as an individual at times in our lives.
2006-09-08 20:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aniatario, I wish, WISH, wish, that I could be like you. I don't mean to say that I absolutely need a man in my life, because I don't. You all just make such great accessories! I have a lot of friends and a great bunch of kids. I would be fine with their love and my own company... but you men are such a challenge. And that is the part of giving my heart that I enjoy. Having the love returned is a great perk as well. To answer your question, in my life, love and romance are very necessary, because I am a very passionate person and enjoy loving those that I love. Nana
2006-09-08 20:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are suppose to love yourself ,,that is important. But, once you've been bitten,,there is no turning back. I met my boyfriend when I was 16,,I broke up w/ him several times,,,and I just couldn't live w/out him!!! I would get sick,, I would just sit by the phone and listen to those songs for hours on the radio... and finally he would call,, and my world was a sphere again, and not flat and dull..... And,,,that was over 20 years ago!!!!!
I still love him, and I love myself too... I am my own person,, we made each other who we are today~~ we raised our children to love themselves, and others,,,and be able to have a relationship ...not a superficial one.
so,, just wait till that special someone comes along that rocks your world!
2006-09-08 20:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person. For most people, money is the only thing that matters to them. Some feel that friends and or family is the only thing they need. I would personally feel empty without love and romance no matter how much success I gained in other areas of my life.
2006-09-08 20:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone should experience being loved at least once in their lifetime. Love is something that we all need to feel at some point in our life from other people other than our family! When your family or friends tell you they love you it is no big deal, but when a guy or girl tells you that you are seeing it changes everything that you have ever thought about the whole situation. Love is a big thing to a lot of people and it can change your life forever!
2006-09-08 20:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Shooting Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Love/ romance are not necessary, if you want to live a life that feels empty. You may think you don't need it but the fact that you are asking this question would suggest that something IS missing from your life... could it perhaps be LOVE??
2006-09-08 20:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i never had s serious relationship either until my bf came into my life.but after some dating i fell in love with him. and it is good because he is always there for me . i think that you need to experience love as a whole with its ups and many downs rather then not to know what love feels like. no, we do not need to signify our existance through another person.
2006-09-08 20:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...because life without someone who makes you happy is a empty life..We shouldn't rush into a relationship without knowing who we know ourselves..You need to know what makes us happy and look for that in someone else...Why wouldn't you want to come home to someone..would you want to spend the rest of your life watching movies alone..eating dinner alone... Its human nature to want to have someone to cuddle with..It is nice to know that someone cares about you...Yes...friends and family are good to have around..but don't you want something more..?however...its nice to have someone to kiss with such passion...that you never want to let them go..To think about them...and have a smile form across your face..To hear their voice and never want them to stop talking...or melt inside everytime you see them.. "Two human loves make one
divine."....
Love is like the sunshine; no matter how tightly you shut down your heart, the sunlight will find a way to shine into it. Love’s process is unstoppable.
2006-09-09 00:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋