Okay,well I have this guy that I love very much but haven't dated in a really long time.Now putting that aside we have dated twice for very long periods of time and been doing other things on the side;)
Now through all the years that I've known him he's hurt me a few times,made me cry like 1000 times yet made me feel amazing a lot of the time too(when i wasn't hurt and crying)Now I just found out only now that he had lied to be on the day before prom that he was dating someone else(although he still went to prom with me)and the only reason he lied was because he didn't want to do anything with me after prom and yet like a month later he was doing things with me again and I didn't even ask or anything,he just decided he wanted to.So I don;'t know what to do about it.I've tried confronting him about everything but the man doesn't listen to anyone.So I don't know if I should cut him out of my life completely,tolerate him for who he is but not forgive him,or forgive him.
2006-09-08 13:07:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you want my opinion, sounds like he doesnt really know what he wants One thing for sure though, he knows that when all else fails you are there for him. You seem to be there when he wants sex or as back up when he has noone else.In a way it sounds as though you are being used by him. You need to call it quits with him find someone else who is more reliable and giving. See what happens next time he decides that he wants you to fulfill his needs and tell him NO!
2006-09-08 13:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two?
Why are you confronting him about everything in the past? I never understand why people do that. It's not about letting someone get away with something; it's about truly loving them and forgiving them. I can't imagine why he would tell you the truth about that prom thing after so long, but it must have been from a misguided idea of love and trust, trying to show you he is honest about past mistakes or something. If this is something that makes you want to cut him out of your life completely, then go ahead and do that. But if you actually love him, you might consider only shunning him for a while...if he is the sort who is proud and stubborn and never forgives YOU for anything!...or you could go ahead and forgive him? What's in your heart? That's your answer.
2006-09-08 13:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't know all the facts about this but i can tell you that it sounds like you should keep your distance from him. One he lied to you something a man should never do or anyone for that matter, second he lied about being with someone he was with cause he didn't want to go with you after prom. Now it seems to me that if he'll lie about that with somebody else he'll do it to you if yall get together. So my best guess is to leave him along. i'm not saying it's going to be easy but it would be best for you
2006-09-08 13:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and done that .i dated a guy since the 9th grade off and on and we both dated in between, now I'm 26 with a 3 year old son that he has seen 3 times since my son has been born , and now has a live in girlfriend .4get him 4 real.Dont' even look back you can do better by yourself. Believe me you will find someone better!
2006-09-08 13:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think i would cut him out of my life for good, but i do think you should stop dating and having sex with him and just be friends. Because he knows now that he can lie to you, cheat, and do his thing than he will do it. A guy likes to have more things than one. But i wish you luck... :-(
2006-09-08 13:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Shooting Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. Do you want him in your life, as he is? Do you want him as a friend or lover? I wouldn't be interested, but that's just me. You have to make that decision for yourself. Just keep in mind that expecting him to change is futile. He is the way he is. Take it or leave it.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 13:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie! it`s like this if you wants to put up with his s.o.b.them you stay with him.
but ! if you feel thats he is hurting you more and not doing you good,lose the s.o.b.
as for piece of mind,just kick his sorry a.s.s. to the curb.you are not looseing any sleep.
2006-09-08 13:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting this person use you? Dont you think you deserve better than that? I think you deserve better than that. Drop his sorry ***, now!
2006-09-08 13:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's made you miserable by your own admission.
Time to find someone who can meet your needs.
He obviously can't.
2006-09-08 13:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to forgive
2006-09-08 13:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by LaLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋