I just got aload of unprovoked abuse from a bunch of idiots in a car stopped at traffic lights. I ignored it, but now I feel frustrated for not having said or done something.
The trials of being a man in drunken England...
2006-09-08 13:01:26 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You did the right thing. Console yourself with the knowledge that you set a better example than they ever will. Sticks and stones. Sticks and stones.
2006-09-08 13:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this sort of thing is occurring all over the UK thousands of times every day. Everyone, I think, feels powerless and many old people become very frightened. One can only do what you did, however. To change this attitude of children, youths and young men to their elders requires the support of Parliament, the Judiciary and police. So I ask you what hope do we have when these three bodies are often seen to be actively supporting the criminal rather than the victim. If you,for instance, had done anything at all to the yobs you encountered, you would now undoubtedly be incarcerated in some police cell and have a criminal record!! They in turn would still be out carousing and looking for other people to offend. I get absolutely livid nowadays when I read about the police saying, "We can't do anything our hands are tied". That is a weak, gutless reaction from people who are putting their job before their conscience.
heavenlyhaggis
2006-09-08 13:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it geezer. I had something like that happen to me near a Tesco's and i wished i walked away. Instead i thought i aint putting up with this and fought em. It turned out very bad for me indeed. What turned in to a 1 on 2 ended up 1 on 20 or so. Needless to say i lost and i now have a 2 inch scar above me left eye where i got bottled. Walking away would have done my head in but at least i wouldn't have to explain the scar to everyone i meet. This time next year you won't even remember them w****rs. Walk on and don't give em the satisfaction, Trust me on this one mate you did the right thing.
2006-09-08 17:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by er_opps_again 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no point you pandering to them, whatever happens the law will come down on their side or they will get a few hours sweeping roads. The whole problem with England is that there are to many do gooders trying to protect the little darlings. Wouldnt happen in some other Countrys. Still this is soft England with its football yobs etc so i dont suppose anything will change
2006-09-08 13:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by dukedog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not really consider it a form of sexual abuse and a lot of the time they are not very offensive. There have been occasions when they have been more direct with sexually suggestive comments and while it may not be abuse, it sure is annoying. Some women may like it a lot, I am not one of those women. I am confident enough in myself that I do not need the compliments of perfect strangers to raise my self esteem. =P
2016-03-27 03:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. I know how you feel....like a victim and it seems that in England if someone is being beaten up or a house broken into people just turn away...what is happening to this country?
I think if you would of said something they could of got out of the car and beat you up and no one would of done anything!
Hopefully they'll do it to the wrong person!
2006-09-08 13:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Amazing Magenta 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring it is best. You dont want to fuel any situation nowadays. You don't know what they are carrying or if they are on drugs or something. They are capable of anything. These English drunken yobbos need to get their heads sorted out. They think that to be a real man they've gotta be picking a fight with someone.
2006-09-08 21:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Princess415 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best not to say anything, to not even acknowledge that they've said anything at all to you. The reason they throw insults and shout abuse at people is to bring attention to their drunkenness, and to show people that they feel like they have the confidence to do anything they want. If you respond, you fuel their confidence even further, because you're daring them to say something else or even do something else. This is how fights like this start. Don't let them taunt you, if you respond, you're giving them exactly what they want - an excuse for an argument.
2006-09-08 13:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were right to ignore them. They were not worth the effort of any sort of response and they are not worth thinking about now. It sounds like a case of bravado to me - each one of them was trying to look big in front of his mates, instead of which they looked like the collection of morons they really are. I don't think they picked on you because you're a man - women get this kind of abuse too, usually either for being too attractive or not attractive enough! I have no doubt each one of those morons would be terrified if he found himself facing you without the support of his friends.
2006-09-09 21:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i work in a job where im always getting grief and abuse. there are a few ways. normally just ignoring them is good as it means you havent sunk to their level and also they have then failed in trying to get a rise out of you. Another one which i like it to laugh at them. it takes them quite a while to figure out why your laughing at them. however, with that one you run the risk of the situation getting worse so be prepared. a final option is to record the registration mark and make a report to the police for a public order offence.
2006-09-08 14:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by random guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. It is frustrating after the fact. You wish you'd done something, but frankly, in this day and age where people are just as likely to shoot you or something, ignoring is the best way to get home safely.
2006-09-08 14:01:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋