should I keep my baby that I got pregnant with after I got raped?

Answer 1

Wow… You sure picked a good question to start your involvement with Yahoo7 Answers.
It is such a hard question to answer, because ultimately, it is something that only you can answer… the rest of us can offer suggestions, but the final decision has to be yours !!!

I personally am very much against ‘abortions’…
But having said that, I can certainly appreciate how there are occasions where they can be seen as being ‘necessary’ or ‘unavoidable’.
In cases for example, where the baby is likely to be born with major disabilities, it could perhaps be seen as ‘fair to the baby’ for the birth to be terminated.

In the case of a ‘rape victim’ I can certainly appreciate why the girl/woman would perhaps not want to have anything to do with the baby.
The ‘rape’ itself was a nightmare, and to have to relive that nightmare time and time again because you are carrying the seeds of the nightmare inside of you, certainly can’t be an easy thing to deal with !!!

There is a lot that needs to be considered in deciding what you should do…
How old you are… How far advanced the pregnancy is… How much ‘support’ is available to you… Whether you feel you could become ‘emotionally attached’ to the being you are carrying inside of you.

One very important thing that must be considered, is the fact that none of what has happened, is the fault of the baby!!!

Please take a moment or two to visit the following link…
I think you will find it to be pretty amazing reading, as it explains step by step what is happening with that ‘being’ you are carrying inside of you.
http://www.nswrtl.org.au/miracle.html

I can’t tell you what decision you should make.
All I can really do is ask you, if you decide not to keep the baby, to consider ‘adoption’ as an alternative to ‘abortion’.
There are so many childless couples out there who would dearly love to have a baby of their own, but for medical reasons, are unable to do so.
They would make beautiful parents, if only they were given the chance !!!
I appreciate that it won’t be easy for you to carry the baby ‘full term’ and then to have to consider giving it away, but I believe you will eventually come to accept that you had made the right decision. If you did decide to have the baby, you just might find that you really do love it, and decide to nurture it yourself.

I wish you love, and hope that everything works out for you.
No matter what you decide… Don’t regret your decision… Because it was the right one for you !!!

Answer 2

well, this is a hard one to answer, and I am sorry that you are going through this. If it were me, I would keep it, or at least carry it to term. The baby is half of you as well, and will carry on your traits and genes as well. If you can't love the child, or even care for it, there are millions of people out there that can not have children, that would love to take it and care for it and love it. If you can take it, and love it and care for it, children are a blessing from god. I hope that you will be able to cope with what has happened to you, and that the sick person that has done this to you pays for it, but it is not the fault of the child, any more than it is your fault. I hope that you can get the counseling that you need, and that you will not let this ruin your thoughts towards men in general, there are some really good ones still out there that would never hurt you for any reason... Good Luck to you

Answer 3

If you want the opinion from a daughter of rape, I would say yes. My mother was raped and had me when she was 15. While my life was not a perfect fairy tale, I think I turned out OK. I am the oldest of six kids. Ultimately you need to decide what is best for you and your baby. If you can love your child and support you and the baby, then all will be OK. If you are going to be angry at the baby because it reminds you of the rape, then give it up for adoption, hundreds of people are waiting to adopt and give a baby a loving home.
Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Honey, I don't know how old you are, it would be tough for any age.
I was raped 2 weeks before my 18th b'day. He stole my virginity and left me pregnant. All circumstances are different. Mine--I wasn't sure what to do. My mother sent me to a home for 'unwed' mothers. It was never spoke of again.
I knew i couldn't take care of a baby just out of high school. But, I didn't want to hurt the baby, either.
So, i decided on adoption. My baby had parents before she was born. They took her home from the hospital.
The hardest thing I've ever done was sign the adoption papers.
However, I do not regret my decision. Not one bit. It doesn't make you a bad mother. It shows you took responsibility for that child's life. You did the best thing for the child. THAT is a good mother.
My daughter is 28, living her life. I know she is happy, because when I think about her, I smile.
Don't punish the child for anothers actions.
God bless you, child. Whatever decision you make, be assured that God will take care of the baby.

Answer 5

I think it really depends on all he circumstances that are surrounding you. Did you know the person who did this? Are you able to look at your baby without hurting? or being resentful? If you feel that it would hurt you more to give your baby up then by all means stick through it but if it would be just to hard on you emotionally then give the baby up for adoption and pick the parents who wouldn't mind an open adoption so that maybe you can make your peace with your child one day (not that you are doing anything bad but just for your own conscious) Good luck to you, and I am so sorry to hear about your circumstances. I do know of family members who can not have a baby and would love to adopt a child, email me if you like more info. Just remember it was not the baby's fault!

Answer 6

This is a sore subject. Its hard to say, you have already been through a lot. However I recently had a little boy (under different circumstances) and he is the light of my life. The second you see your little miracle it makes things OK. I have been having a really hard time with things in my life and he is the only thing that makes it better. Its hard to raise a baby but very well worth it. In my opinion God does nothing with out a reason, and there has to be a reason this happened. I really hope you make the right decision for you. I will pray for you and your unborn child.

Answer 7

First off, this isn't a decision you should make based solely on answer from random strangers off of a website.

It depends on what you want. If you don't have the time to take care of the child, I would suggest going on with the birth and putting the baby up for adoption. Maybe there is a relative you know and trust to give up your parental rights to. Or, you could simply keep the child for yourself and raise her yourself. I wouldn't abort the baby though, it would destroy an innocent life.

Answer 8

ONLY YOU are the only person that can make that decision. You know in your heart, mind, and soul what you are comfortable doing. Having a baby after being raped is very hard but giving up a baby after giving birth is hard as well. It should be up to you and only you to decide what you will do.

Answer 9

Difficult choice. Yours to make. Hopefully you are receiving some counseling. Without being too specific, I knew someone who struggled with this choice. She considered abortion for about a half a second, until she saw the heartbeat on the ultrasound. She then made arrangements for a family to adopt her child. She came to know them, care about them, and in the end, just couldn't let the baby go. She chose to keep the child, and her life turned upside down (well, right side up!).

Having a baby is a mind-blowing experience in the first place, but in this situation you're going to have to do some real soul searching to decide what you will do. Can you afford to stay home for the next five years with this child? Can you afford to place him/her in childcare so you can work? Do you have supportive people around you who will stand behind you, whichever choice you make?

You're in a tough place, my heart cries for you. Someone above said that all babies are gifts. They are. They are precious and special and wonderful and deserve a loving family. In the end, we always see that difficult experiences no doubt make us stronger.

(What a beautiful diamond you will be!)

Answer 10

I agree that you shouldnt base this life atlering decision soley on the advise of strangers, but on the other hand , in my personal OPINION, I do not believe in abortion. I believe that we are not asked, by God or (any other higher power that you may believe), that we are put into situations that we cannot handle. The reason for this preganacy may be a blessing in disquise. It may be and will be hard to see now, but in time I feel that you will see the reason for these things happening.....nothing happens without purpose. We do not know the purpose, but there is one. I feel that if you were to keep this child, you will love it.......unconditionally. The way a child should be loved, no matter how it was conceived.