my bf says he's going to smoke pot!?

Question

My boyfriend told me that him and his friends were going to smoke pot tonight. I'm very scared, because I'm afraid he'll become dependent of it and smoke it all the time. he even told me that he sold pot at school! when a guy smokes anything its a total turn off for me. How can I tell him to stop? Should I ditch him and move on?

Answer 1

Ditch him and move on. You aren't interested in him the way he is and you're not his momma. Losing you may be one of several experiences that cause him to change his mind about drugs someday. Do the right thing, be true to yourself, respect other people's free-will, and good will come out of it.

Might be hard to let him go even though you know it's the right thing to do. The right thing is seldom the easy way out...

Answer 2

please don't ditch him for this. i don't no your boyfriend but it's important to understand the facts about pot before over reacting. smoking once or twice will not make him dependent on it. if u want him to stop, sit down with him and explain how you feel about smoking. whatever you do don't call him stupid or foolish for doing it because doesn’t help in anyway. if he has a problem and u really do love him you could always help him stop. this might seem like a big deal but pot really isn't a big deal unless it's used way to often. im not saying people should do it, just that it's not a huge health risk. what you should really be worrying about is harder drugs. if anything other then pot ever comes up it's extremely important you tell him not to do it. in the end it's only his decision wither he's going to continue to do it or not, and it's your choice to either respect what he does, or leave him. it all depends on how much you both mean to each other. now after listening to me rant and rave for such a long time please enjoy these entertaining cartoons about weed. there completely true and funny. if u really care about the subject you should read the "about" part. it's actually very interesting. http://www.newgrounds.com/portal/view/308386

Answer 3

Smoking a little pot isn't that bad, but dealing, that can get you in a bit of trouble. If its just the smoking part tell him not to do it around you and to listerine when he comes around you. If however you have a real moral problem with him doing drugs then ditch him or tell him to give up the drugs. Just be prepared for the fact he might choose the drugs over you.

Answer 4

Not good. It is illegal for one thing. My uncle use to smoke pot and in his words "I use to be smart until I smoked pot".

I started dating someone for about a month before he told me he smoked pot. I stopped dating him. I am not getting myself into any of that. There are people out there who do not do it and agree with you. Find someone who has the same values as you do.

Answer 5

If it is just once in a blue moon, you need not worry. It is only when he does it regularly, that you should start worrying.

Pot is considered legal in Holland (Netherlands) - you can get them in a cafe like a cup of coffee! And I believe many rock stars smoke them too.

Marijuana has been around for a long while. Its source, the hemp plant (cannabis sativa), was being cultivated for psychoactive properties more than 2,000 years ago. Read more about it on -
http://www.acde.org/common/Marijana.htm

Answer 6

He is smoking pot and selling pot because he is insecure or depressed and obviously not stable enough to be in a relationship. Drugs will lead him to nowhere basically and you have to ask yourself if that is where you want to end up. Obviously, don't give up on him just like that but explain to him that he is throwing his life away and try to open his eyes to his mistakes. If he relents and sees your point of view then there is hope...if he scoffs and is passionate about drugs, move on. You don't need him ruining your life and causing you pain.

Answer 7

I would totally ditch him. If he needs money that bad you should tell him to get a job. Smoking is a way turn off for me too. Good luck. Also, it's not healthy, at all.

Answer 8

If you really want a long term relationship with him, let him know that smoking and selling weed is the wrong thing to do. It would be a turn off to everyone and anyone. If he doesnt wanna listen to you, then he isnt right for you. Move on. Good luck with it

Answer 9

Depends what kind of person he is, if hes a jerk then let him go. If he sold drugs in school that could become a liability for you. Meaning, if you are with him while he is in posession and he is caught or randomly searched by a school official then you could be expelled right along with him.

If that drug scares you that much, I want for you to know its usually called the gateway drug and depending upon whether or not he likes the effect of it more could follow.

Answer 10

Marijuana is a plant that grows natural in our environment and it is no worse for you than having a beer or smoking a cigarette. So let your boyfriend smoke his weed and do his thing. Weed isn't as addictive as they say it is. If you don't like him smoking weed then maybe you should tell him how you feel and if he doesn't stop then just tell him that you don't want him being high around you.. but other than that there really isn't anything wrong with smoking weed. I would rather have my man out smoking weed than partying god knows where with god knows who!

Answer 11

You can't control his actions, you can only control yours. I suggest you tell him how you feel about him smoking pot. If he does it anyway, then he is not making good decisions. At that point you have to decide if you want to continue the relationship. I know that if I were in your situation, I would drop the boyfriend like a hot potato.