How do you discipline your 2 year old?

Question

My 2 year old daughter has hit her terriable 2's. She is driving me crazy, and its not like I havent been threw it before. My oldest daughter was never this bad. They fight all the time. I wanted them to be close so I moved them into the same room. Now I am thinking about putting them in seperate rooms again. Is this the right thing to do?

PLEASE, do not say spank or hit. We do NOT spank our kids! It only teaches them to disrespect others.

Answer 1

spare the rod. spoil the child

Answer 2

You need to give your child guide lines
1. Have a naughty corner either A mat or a pillow case someone downstairs not their room
2. When she plays up get down to her eye level and tell her that this is a warning that she can stop her behaviour or go on the naughty corner/mat
3. If this does not do it don't argue with her put her in the corner/mat 1 min for each year so 2 mins for your daughter.
VERY important she will run off the first few times keep taking her back to it till she understands that what you say goes.
3. When her time is and she has sat for 2 mins say to her why you put her there then she says sorry and you give her a hug.

4. Give your daughters separate bedtimes get your youngest daughter special time bath story bed then you can read or whatever to the other daughter downstairs before she goes to bed.

Hope that helps worked for me. Good luck.

Answer 3

You, and many others, are not going to like my answer. Tough love. There is absolutely nothing wrong with spanking. Not slapping, not beating. Just a good old fashioned spanking. You absolutely have to let your children know who's boss. If you don't get a handle on this right now, your children will eat you alive. Perhaps spanking is not necessary, but you better find something that let's them know you are the boss. And don't worry about them hating you. They won't. Proper discipline will not cause them to hate you. Children need discipline, and, at times, even want discipline. Be strong. Be a good parent and teach your children to behave, and to be respectful.

Answer 4

Oh, I feel for you! I am an army wife, too! I found a book last year that really helped me. It is called: The Brat Stops Here. It outlined a very specific time-out "ritual" that worked the first day for us. I nearly cried.

Here is a link with the introduction:
http://bratstopshere.com/
The Brat Stops Here!: 5 Weeks (or Less) to No More Tantrums, Arguing, or Bad Behavior...
by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

My sister swears by the Parenting With Love and Logic series. She is much nicer than me though, and her main struggle with parenting was how to say no without hurting her children's feelings. (I'm not making fun, she's just really tenderhearted!) I cannot personally vouch for this item, but it is called Painless Parenting for the Preschool years. http://www.loveandlogic.com/ecom/p-128-painless-parenting-for-the-preschool-years.aspx

Here is the "blurb":
Parents of preschoolers have lots of questions…Charles Fay, Ph.D., has the answers.

With wisdom and humor he addresses:
Bedtime - and how to keep the child in their bed
Potty training - when and how
Time-out - really can work for toddlers
How to get to work on time - and not be stressed
Temper tantrums - they can be avoided no matter where you are
and many other everyday challenges


One more thing, I came across http://grandmommy.com/ the other day, and it reminded me how much joy we receive from our children. She has a little section on there where you can ask her questions, and she posts really good, honest answers.

Best wishes. My three older sisters and I fought all growing up, and now we wish we lived closer and could be together more. My mom would have never guessed that we would speak to one another after we moved out! Who knew?

Answer 5

Putting them in the same room in the first place may not have been the best idea. Your older daughter probably resents having the 2 year old in her space and constantly in her face. Your older daughter will probably be much happier and much nicer to the baby if she has her own room back. Just imagine, if the 2 year old is driving you crazy, what do you think she is doing to your older daughter who doesn't have the coping skills of an adult?

By the way, if you older daughter is older than 3, I'd be surprised if she hasn't voice her own objections to the arraignment.

Answer 6

Patients and love. Give it time for them to each make their claim and adjustments. I think the time out with your 2 year old is the best answer and positive reinforcement when she is listening. A quick time out and explanation that she can understand. This is a great time to learn about sharing and listening. Please don't ever tell her she is bad but rather what she is doing is not right! When your two year old naps it might be a great time to spend with your older child and thank her for being such a good example and reinforce in her how she is a great teacher and how proud you are of her for being patient and loving. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 7

Good slap on the botton and say. One more time young lady and you see my hand God help you! and use eye contact she get the message. That American crap style go to your room doesn't work. Why what in these room toys pc playstation so when in the room the child doesn't think of what they done. To busy on this and that in bedroom. So they know next time they get off with it.

Answer 8

I have the same problem with my son. I just can't stand the screaming. So, I've come up with a solution, and it's not abusive, and, he's learning not to scream. I simply stick him in his play pen in a room where I can't hear him and shut the door and walk awy, you know what, it's working, now when he starts screaming, I just ask very calmly, do you want to go in your playpen, and he shuts up right away.

Answer 9

no keep them in the same room girls tend to fight alot because there going through there on little change but give it some time they will soon grow closer i know i have 5 girls

Answer 10

well my only advice is not to hit her. not even spanking it will only teach her that when anyone does something wronge she can hit them.

Answer 11

I would pop her butt but not hard a put her in timeout for ten min