will u judge me?

Question

A while ago my cousin got locked up and so my mom urged me to write to him in prison. I didnt kno who this cousin was i had never heard of him or met him.So I did but then my cousin started to hint me that he was starting to feel something for me. I really didnt see anything wrong at the time cus i had never met him he was one of my uncles many abandoned kids and i figured he would be locked up 4 a long time. but when he got out he kept looking for me and calling me until he convinced me to run away with him. i was 17 he was 26. and when i did run away with him i found out that he had just had a baby wirth some other girl. i got pegnant like 1 month later and now here i am. I left him because he wouldn't leave the other girl cus of tha baby. any ways im 7 months pregnant and i hvent heard of him cus i refused to answer his calls. what should i do? should i let him kno when tha baby's gonna be born? he said he wanted to be there

Answer 1

I won't judge you, everybody makes mistakes, everybody goes through different odd situations, it's not your fault. Love is blind.
Anyway, I think you should tell him when the baby is born and allow him to be there at the hospital this way he can sign the birth certificate. Afterwards, you can have a court report to him that he has to issue child support checks to you..

And, to the people being rude to you on here; at least SHE is being responsible for HER actions and not getting an abortion!

Answer 2

...so you don't know him and now you run away with him and get pregnant? And on top of that, you cousin? Ooooooh jeez...that was a really crappy idea from the start. If he was putting moves on you, you should have just stayed the heck away from him. Sorry if I sound harsh, but it's the truth. He wants to be there? The b@st@rd is lying. Leave him for good for God's sake, jeez! Right now, you need all the help you can get. He'll probably get a sentence for incest. Don't cry about it either. Be strong. If you want to keep the baby, be strong for it. ...You've made the biggest mistake of your life and there's no turning back. Just live to your potential. I hope you are supported. So you know, this is extremely unfair to the child. If you even THINK about having a child, you need a frikin' job, a college degree, and so on. You're barely out of grade school and you're having children? That is not good at all. If you feel sorry for yourself, come to terms that it is not only you that matters. The child needs shelter, food,a crib,diapers, toys, clothes, daycare...think about it now. There's much more needed.

You're in my prayers.

Answer 3

You must tell the Dad. First, you need help. Someone to be your advocate. An attorney. A social worker. This must be resolved. What a mess. You should immediately find a paternity suite attorney, and get a social worker. Call crisis lines in your city. Talk to counselors at school. Go to the courts. Find an unwed mother shelter, the attorney, and begin repairing your life. Wake up, girl. You have a kid about to be born. This is no game. You have 60+ years of life left. What will you do with your time? Don't waste anymore of it.

Answer 4

Well obviously he doesnt deserve to be a part of your childs life. ok, thats a big assumption i dont know the whole story but anyway. Im really not affected by your saying you got knocked up by your cousin, there's much worse in the world.

dont let people tell you that youll end up on the streets or poor bull like that. youre capable to work things out yourself and if you need some help there are people out there that will help you.


anyway. he said he wanted to "be there" for when the child is born? why bother let him. its not like hes going to see anything with his head so far up his ***.

Answer 5

I will not judge you, but I will advise you. If you have been without him for awhile now, then continue on your own. Life is not easy being a single mom, but you seem to be a smart intelligent person. There is alot of help out there. Continue your education and become a stable mom. Not only for you, but for the sake of your child. Always remember that good things come to those who wait. Good luck!

Answer 6

Yes, but there will be consequences. 1. Your cousin will have two babies to take care of. 2. He might leave you and take the baby when it is probably 1-2 years old. and 3. He is your cousin and is more older than you.

Answer 7

Well, that sucks

1. Yoiu will likely end up in poverty if you have the kid

2. This loser will keep going to jail to leave you raising the kids by yourself. You will work you azz off at a minimum wage job, while he has all his meals, housing, and healthcare paid for in jail

Stop making dumbazz decisions!

Answer 8

I dont think you should tell him!!! Because he will just do the same thing to you as he did to the other girl!!! Why would you even run away with him??? You should go get some child support from his a$$ make him pay!!!

Answer 9

What n' the heck are you doing sleeping with your cousin. Whether you knew him or not you still knew it was your cousin when you starting writing him. what the hell. Knowing you could do that and getting pregnant to boot, all i have to say that poor poor baby.

Answer 10

Ring the Riki Lake show she love these kind of stuff or Jerry Springer show. What sort of mother encourage her daughter to write to a man in prison? has she lost her senses there?