hello, im a 2nd year college student with somewhat of a dillemma. for about 2 months ive been seeing this one girl, and everything was going good. however, shes a new student to the college. she told me the other day that things were getting a little stressful, and said she didnt want a relationship, but still had the same feelings for me and wanted to stay friends. should i be upset about this? i kinda am, because im a little dissappointed she doesnt want a relationship, but is that right? what should i do? thanks for the input
2006-09-08 12:10:35 · 9 answers · asked by Riodg32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should give her space and time. everything is new to her, she may be trying to find where she fits in. she doesnt want to rush into anything, but she does want you around. so, give her her time to shine and be her friend, maybe with patience, you'll win her over. if not, move on. dont make someone a priority that makes you an option!
2006-09-08 12:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. DeVine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good that she tells you this right now. If she is a first year college student, she is probably very young and it may be very wise of her to not want a relationship right now. I would find out if she ever wants a relationship and what her life relationship goals are ie.. does she wanted to get married, does she want to just shack up with someone, or does she just want to date a lot? That is a very important thing to know before you spend time in a relationship that is going in a direction other than where you want it to go. I would just do as she wishes and just be her friend. She may just feel that the erlationship is moving way to fast. You have only been dating 2 months, that is not very long at all.
2006-09-08 12:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard being in a relationship in college. I once dropped out because of the stress of a girlfriend but when we broke up I went back graduated and working on a second degree. I would suggest that if you like her that much give her space she will want to hang out occasionally and she will also want to hang out with other people. Dont let jealousy enter in and mess things up. I'm not saying that its going to be an easy task but if it is meant to be then all things will work out in the end.
2006-09-08 12:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Independent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being honest and that's good. What's she is saying is she wants a friends with benefits relationship. She doesnt' want to be tied down to one guy, but if she needs you, she wants to call on you. Be it for support, sex, a date; nothing more.
It's obvious you are much more serious about her than she is to you. I had it happen to me and it sucks. What you should do is say we can be friends and then date other women. When she finds out whats' going on she'll leave you alone or be jealous and realize she's losing something. She's not into this so don't expect something that won't happen. Sorry.
2006-09-08 12:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it's gonna be hard, but u have to respect her decision.
what kind of girlfriend do u want? someone who WANTS to be w/ you, chooses to be with you.... is Excited to be w/ you..etc etc.... she is obviously having a hard time dealing with school and balancing you. respect her, and let her decide what is best in her life. same for you, work on your life, and your goals. perhaps u do need to meet people, perhaps u will wait for eachother, u won't know...but forcing someone or being disapointed or being angry at someone for not knowing what she wants is not going to be productive for you.
always seek what is Healthy, Positive, and Happy in your life... let her go to do the same. if u really care about her, ur respect for her feelings will outweigh your disappointment on what you WANT. if u are WORTH waiting for, she will come back to you. if she doesn't feel that way, and find someone else...? well, 1st of all she doesn't choose to be w/ you..and that's not the kind of girl u want. 2nd, she may need to grow on her own, and become a woman on her own two feet. the more strong and successful and confident she becomes, the better partner she will be.
good luck, and just keep working on Yourself. make sure u are a great guy, smart, attractive, respectful...a great boyfriend. u will either meet a lot of new people and find someone different... or you will show this girl that you are WORTH being with. either way, at least u won't be sitting at home depressed, angry or sad. good luck.
2006-09-08 12:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may or may not be totally honest with her motives. Either way, respect her space and back off. However, if you see her around campus with a new beau in the next few weeks, you know she was feeding you a line. Just don't give her a second chance if she is playing you...
2006-09-08 12:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shaken Not Stirred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she doesn't want to date you dude... You just have to get over it... She has the right to pick and choose her dates, and so do you... Move on and find a girl who wants to be in a relationship if this is what you're interested in.
2006-09-08 12:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be such a p-u-s-s-y!
She'll come around when she's ready
Meanwhile you go get you another vagina
Hump and dump baby!
2006-09-08 12:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
eat her out lol
2006-09-08 12:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋