I'VE HAD ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm 13 years old and my 12 year old brother is constantly pounding on me and I can't do anything since I weigh about 97 pounds and he weighs 155 pounds! Please help me find a way to make this stop! I try to tell on him (no I'm not a tattle tale) but my parents just yell at him or tel him to stop but he doesn't. Plus most of the time it's when I'm alone with him or when I'm around my friends. If you can give me any advice, I will be very grateful!
P.S. Some people call me a whimp for asking for help with this stuff so don't call me any names 'cause I'm tired of it!
2006-09-08 12:03:04 · 18 answers · asked by Running Teen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmm, you got something tough right here eh?
Well what i would do is play some kind of a prank on him. Whats his weakness? If your parents yell at you, then tell him he deserved it, if they ask "Why" then tell them what he's done to you.
Or you can also have a talk with your parents about them. Tell them that you don't appreciate him hitting you. Its not "Tattle Tailing" if he's hitting you. Its what most people call "Self Defense"
2006-09-08 12:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRUE- You need to talk with your parents again and again, until they get it through their heads that your brother has issues. Maybe they can have a talk with him where they try to find out why he's doing this. Is he getting bullied himself at school? and taking it out on you. Do you treat him with respect when he isn't beating on you? Maybe you all need some family therapy...I know, that's a tall order. TRUE- You need to learn some self-defense techniques whatever way you can. Do as much as you can to avoid being alone with him. My husband had the same problem with his big brother. His mother just kept saying "Boys will be boys" and ignored the problem. All he could do at the age of 6 to defend himself against a 12 yr old was to learn how to become a better and dirtier fighter than his brother. That helped and eventually worked, but there was never more than an armed truce between them until his brother finally committed suicide many years later. I tell you this to underscore that your brother may well need help to prevent him from growing up to be a miserable human being. Good luck to you. I know that constantly living with the fear of the next attack is horrible for you.
2006-09-08 19:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your not a wimp your someone who is getting pretty much physically abused by someone who is bigger and stronger then you are, there is no need for name calling at all!.
This is a serious problem, and your parents should have done a little more about this, not that im putting them down, but I know you have told them about what he's doing and everything but maybe you really need to go to them and be like "look we really need to talk.." and then get them both sitting down with you somewhere when your brother isnt there, and just tell them exactly how you feel and what you would like them to do about it.
I am sure if they know that this just isnt a now and then thing, it's constantly, that they will do something about it, wether that be punishing him, or making sure he stays away from you. Thats the best advice I have for you hun, I really dont know what else I can say, he wont listen to you, and there really isnt much else you can do if talking to him about it, and telling him how you feel wont make a difference. Good Luck!
2006-09-08 19:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lyssa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Older brothers can be pests. But beating on his little sister is wrong! Usually big brothers are there to protect lil' sis.
Try to get your parents undivided attention. Tell them you have a problem you need help with. Tell them you are serious. This ain't no sibling playing. Show bruises if you have any. If your parents go to bed at the same time, that would be a good time to try and talk to them.
If they go to bed at separate times, talk to each separately. Make them understand that this is not fun getting beat on by your brother.
And there are times you have to take thing into your own hands. Give your brother a feel of what it is like to be beat on. Wait until he goes to bed and get the broom and whack him good. That should get your parents attention. And if he does it again, wait until he goes to bed and whack him again. Continue until he gets the picture; that he understands what it is like getting beat on; that this has to stop!
You can always pray.
And you can always get a big guy from school to talk to your brother. If he still doesn't understand, you beat him up in front of the other kids. The big guy is there to make him lay there and take it.
2006-09-08 19:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a whimp u are very intelligent for asking for advise.You need to tell your parents how bad it really is..You need to do it when your calm.Not when you have just had a incident with your brother..Sit down with both of them and tell them just how bad it has become. Without your brother around to defend himself. Good luck
2006-09-08 19:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunni, just fight back is all I can say, lol, as much as u can, if u get in trouble, oh well, *he stared it* lol if he like starts hittin u when ur on the ground, just bite him if u cant do nothin about it!hit him in the stomach or even when u get a chance black his eye and then go to school and tell all his freinds why his eye is blacked, if he trys to get even, ask if he wants the other one blacked and a bloody nose to go with it.. lol.. I know.. I'm mean *&* violent... well hope I helped and is worth best answer.. I tried
2006-09-08 19:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by 9*I ♥ Kasey Kahne*9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope I won't get in trouble for this, but you have to defend yourself!!
You need to learn self defense techniques. You're only 13 so it's hard for you to take a self defense class, but maybe there are books you can read or the internet for self defense techniques.
A knee to the groin, take a key between your fingers so it sticks out, use an object to get him to back off!!
2006-09-08 19:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not talk to him and just ask why do u always pick on me?? explain that it hurts your feelings. maybe hes just jealous of u but then again hes your brother and he loves your attention. thats just siblings.
u could try giving him a kiss back. my daughter did this cause my sons hassle her all the time as she the only girl with 4 brothers. the boys run and goooo eewwww she gonna kiss me. just a more positive way of handling the situation.
2006-09-08 19:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by looby282001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called psychological warfare. At twelve, boys start thinking about girls, and how they'd like to hang out with/kiss./ect a girl. I'd start by telling him that no girl will date him if he treats his family like that. No girl would want to kiss him with a mouth like that. No girl would be caught dead in public with a guy who acts like that.
It may make it worse for a little while, but your words will sting him, he will think about it, and within weeks he will be acting much more appropriate.
2006-09-08 19:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by emilystartsfires 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My big brother used to pick on me,too.They seem to think it is funny,but it's not.When we grew up,i asked him why he picked on me and he told me it was because he loved me and wanted my attention.Your not a tattletale because you want your brother to leave you alone,that is your right.Tell him that you don't want him in your space right now,to just leave you alone that your getting older and it's not right for a boy to be bugging a 13 yrs.old girl.Tell him you are growing up and that he needs to cool it.
2006-09-08 19:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋