I asked my boyfriend to marry me several times...?

Question

but he just either changes the subject or says yes as if it's a joke. We have been together almost 5 years and also share a flat. What should I do?

Answer 1

he obviously is happy with the way things are, maybe he would like to do it the old fashioned way and he be the one to ask you, just drop it for now and enjoy being with eachother, after all its only a piece of paper that would make things any different, don't mention it again then you might find HE will be the one to ask YOU

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Seems like he doesn't want to marry you and he's enjoying the relationship as it is. If you two do not come to some type of decision, the relationship is going to go down hill. The reason I say that is because you want to committ and he doesn't. The both of you are on different paths in terms of what you want right now. Since you are not sure what he wants to do. Sit down and have a serious talk with him. Let him no that it is not a time for joking and that you are very serious. If he still doesn't want to get married then I suggest that you look into other options, without him. Move on. Life is too short to be waiting on someone to marry you.

Answer 4

Think about this:

You share a flat.
You share a bed.
You cook.
You clean.
You are available anytime.

You already gave him everything. Why would he change anything by marrying you?

Looks to me like you are SOL.

If he doesn't want to commit to you after 5 years you need to move on. You tried several times and he laughed you off what else does he need to do before you understand?

I am sorry I am not trying to be cruel or hurtful but you give too much while you get nothing in return but rejection.

Answer 5

He obviously isn't ready. Some people don't see the point of getting married when they alright live together with their significant other. It might bother him that you are the one asking him. You should really bring up the subject, if you are really ready to settle down, he seems like hes not and it seems l iek you might be wasting your time. Have a talk with him, maybe he has some good excuses or maybe hes planning something already.

Answer 6

have a serious chat with him and be prepared to say it's time to make this commitment or send him packing. if he can't commit to you after this long or at least an engagement, then he may never commit. do however be willing to just be engaged for awhile. my brother proposed after 5 years then married 3 years after that and have now been married for 10 years. so there is hope for sticking around, but maybe you just need a heart to heart to convey your ready to settle down. he may not be in the same place in his life as you. all joking aside he may really want it too but isn't as confident to pop the question.

Answer 7

I would sit down and have a serious talk with him about this.If he is not prepared to make a commitment after 5 years then he might never be. You need to tell him that you seriously feel its time you got married and took things a stage further. Tell him that if he dosent want this then its time for both of you to move on. Tell him that you will give him time to think about the situation and what his problems/attitudes to the issue are. If he dosent want what you want then it might be time to say good bye!

Answer 8

If he has just ignored it so far then I think it's time you sit down, and discuss with him where your relationship is heading. Don't ask him to marry you now, but ask whether he sees marriage in a near future. He at least needs to let you know how he feels about it. If he continues to avoid the issue, then I suggest you find a new place to live, and new boyfriend to go with it.

Answer 9

Here goes the best answer. Stop having sex, even though you live together and say that you thought about it and you don't want to give yourself anymore for nothing. If he decides he can marry you or either look for sex somewhere else and leave you if he doesn't love you. Why buying the cow when you get the milk for free?

Answer 10

Well, it's clear that he doesn't want to marry you. You can 1) Continue living together as before, accepting that marriage is not in your future, or 2) Pack up, leave, and look for a man who is serious about having a family, not just playing house.

It's really up to you to decide. One thing you CAN'T do is to make him marry you against his will.

Answer 11

Oh dear, you made the biggest mistake of your life. It is a natural part of human nature for the man to do the chasing - you have just made yourself look desperste. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't want to marry you, just think about it, if he did he would have asked you a long while ago. I don't mean to sound unkind, however I have to be honest, my advice to you if it's marriage you're looking for, move on and forget about this guy. I wish you luck and happiness.