I was told in court that i could have my daughter back when i turn 18, but have recently found out that my mum won`t give me her back when i turn 18. Though i curently live with my mum she won`t let me even interact with my daughter because apparently it will ruin her routine when i go back to college is this allowed. All of this is causing conflict between me and my mum which creates an atmosphere around my daughter which really isn`t good for her. Can anyone please help me because i would really love to have my daughter back with me.
2006-09-08 11:49:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be patient and remain calm. I would hate to be in your position, I feel so sorry for you. I hope you are close to being 18. If I were you, I would bite my tounge, remain calm, and apply for housing before you turn 18, so that the day you turn 18 you can have a place to move into. If I were you, I would make that my ulrimate goal, getting out on your own and getting everything together that you will need for you and your daughter, so you will have everything you need when you move out. When you go to college if I were you I would apply for assistance with a daycare instead of having your mom babysit. Once I got out on my own I would remind my mother, gently, not meanly, that she is the grandma, not the mom, and that although you still want her to be in your daughters life, that you will not allow her to take on the roll of mother. You may also want to look on the internet to see if it would be possible for you to get emancipated and see if there are any programs in your area that could help you get out on your own and get on your feet. Also, this is a good rule of thumb, and it works. I use it on my mom all of the time. Anytime there is an argument, and she says stuff to you, that she knows is going to hurt you and piss you off, prove yourself more mature than her and don't retaliate. Simply say things like, I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. Well if you think so, and this is my favorite. I'm not going to argue with you, so please leave me alone. Always let your daughter know you love her, and tell her always, wether your moms there or not, I love you, and I am your mommy. And I promise you that I will always try to be the best mommy I possibly can. Ignore your mother. Try not to speak to her, unless it's casual. And if you're arguing about the way something should be done with your daughter, remain calm and tell her. Well, right now theres nothing I can do about the decisions you make, and don't say it out loud, just always know that soon you will get to make all of the decisions.
2006-09-08 11:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did she get custody of her, I was 16 when i had my son and my mom never got custody of him. But once you turn 18 get a lawyer and take her to court, as long as you can provide a stable home and income you should be able to get her back. Th e fact that your mom won't let her have contact with her that's wrong your the mommy and you should have a special bond with her, just for know let her know you love and care for her and that you will always be there for her and one day you two will have your own place she'll have her own room to decorate. After you have legal custody of your child then grandparents have no rights unless you prove to be an unfit mother, but you sound like you are doing everything to make a good life for her. WAY TO GO!!!!. Just keep up the good work and you and your daughter will have your own lives shortly.
2006-09-08 11:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if it would be better for you and your daughter if both of you lived away from your mother, who I think sounds as if she has problems defining the boundaries of her relationship with you both as a grandparent. I think you should consult a solicitor about this, and maybe Social Services might be able to help you. It would be best to deal with this problem now before it gets any worse. You need your mother's help and support while you get through college, so that you will eventually be able to support your daughter financially and set her an example as a mother who is responsible and works hard. Your mother should be encouraging you to develop a good bond with your daughter and her interference now could lead to severe problems later.
See a solicitor about this, you may qualify for Legal Help.
2006-09-08 20:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what is best for your daughter. you could go back to court and make her give her up but think for a minute how you will you cope if she then decides not to help you. start by telling her you need to spend time with your daughter even though gran has residency and then go the whole way when you are sure you could look after her without their help if needed
2006-09-08 12:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the court told you when you turn eighteen the child is legally yours then when you turn 18 go straight to court and get the rights for your kid.
Your mother cannot go against the law.
2006-09-08 11:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you truly want to take all the information and get some perfect suggestion about this. The CAB has some enter from criminal advisors. also there are solicitors who manage kin regulation and may want to provide you with some suggestion loose in case you ask for it. you need to have all the perfect counsel with you as its time restricted. It sounds as in spite of the reality that your mum is taking up the comprehensive practice and it will be a tricky concern. no longer understanding the comprehensive tale makes it not straightforward to provide you any particular suggestion . when you're nevertheless interior an analogous homestead then you definately must have some rights even in spite of the reality that your mum has a residency order.
2016-11-25 21:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have none, obviously the courst have ruled that the child is best in the care of her gran than with u,..u will be lucky to even get visitation rights
2006-09-08 11:55:48 · answer #7 · answered by cassey s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you should have listened to your mum in the first place and you wouldn't be in this situation. What you doing up at this time of night anyway? you need to be seen to be responsible, I bet you sleep in all day
2006-09-08 12:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your your mom strait down that she's your daughter something that belongs to u that will never belong to your mom unless you die
2006-09-08 11:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋