I have some friends over sometimes and lately my girlfriend is saying my friends are being really messy and that she shouldn't have to clean up after them so much. I told her not to worry about it...I mean guys are messy like that...besides cleaning up after people is being a good hostess...unfortunately everytime i have the guys over she says they are too messy. I feel that it isn't their job to clean up if they are the guests and that she needs to do it. How do I get her to be a good hostess and quit complaining after they leave?
2006-09-08 11:19:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Clean it up yourself. They're your friends why should she do it? And as guests they should respect your house and not make such a mess!
2006-09-08 11:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by Troubled 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, guys do not have to be messy. The very least your friends can do is keep your house clean, as they are guests and shouldn't be making a mess in the first place. It's simple respect - you go to someone's house, you clean up after yourself.
That being said, why should she have to touch anything left over from them? They're YOUR FRIENDS, *you* clean up after them. She's being a gracious enough host by allowing them into her home and letting them be comfortable enough to make the mess. She SHOULD NOT have to clean after them. If the role was reversed, and her friends came over and made a huge mess, would you seriously clean it up? Would your gf expect you to do so?
You can "get her to...quit complaining after they leave" by:
A.) Cleaning the mess yourself or
B.) Making it clear to your friends that whatever mess they create, they clean up...or don't make a mess at all.
2006-09-08 11:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not intend for your friends to do a little cleaning up after themselves, then maybe you should. From what I just read, you invited them over. You are the host, she is not the hostess, and by your own definition your responsibility. They are obviously not her friends, she did not invite them over, and not her job to clean up after grown men. Does she take out the trash as well. Stop treating your girlfriend as a maid service.
2006-09-08 11:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all these are your friends, so you are the host, and that means you need to clean up after them. Second they stop being guest the after several visit, they need to clean up after themselves and maybe they wouldn't be so messy. Your girl has every right to be upset. So if you want her to stop complaining you clean up!
2006-09-08 11:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your guys doesn't give you the right to be messy.. as a matter of fact, I'm messier than my husband!! And anyway, I'm sure she didn't tell your boys to come over, if you invited them then your the hostess!! How 'bout your wive invite all of her friends then you clean up after them when they leave... Or hey I have another idea, how 'bout you clean up after your friends, or maybe even have them clean up after themselves........ Just a thought!
2006-09-08 11:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your girlfriend their mother? i dont think so. I think its common courtesy to not make a mess in other peoples homes. Here is the definition of a guest:
1 a : a person entertained in one's house b : a person to whom hospitality is extended c : a person who pays for the services of an establishment
so i guess if you friends were paying your girlfriend to clean up after them it would be ok. But on the other hand if they were your friends then you would actually be the host and responsible for their mess not your girlfriend.
2006-09-08 11:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by CaptKert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all she has a right to complain about cleaning after your messy friends it may be your all place but it isnt her job to clean after them pigs they can clean after them selfs or not come over at all you need to show more respect to your girlfriend then that or maybe you should clean after them since there your friends i wouldnt let you do that to me and make them or you clean after them. so i think you should apologize to your girl and do it or tell your friends stop being so messy or they cant come over anymore, she has a right to step her foot down i would do the same. you better change your attutide or you are going to be alone. think about it.
2006-09-08 11:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are kidding- the answer is simple. Don't allow her petty attitude to ruin your get-togethers. Just tell her that since she doesn't care to be the hostess, she should go out herself. She could shop, see a movie, have a few drinks, get together with friends of her own, and enjoy herself. Then, just to show her she isn't indespensible, clean everything up before she comes home. That'll shut her up.
2006-09-08 11:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ...what you need is a maid- not a girlfriend. Tell your messy friends to clean-up after themselves, or better yet- you do it!! Besides, cleaning-up after people is being a good host, right? Now, why do women consider us men idiots?!?!
2006-09-08 11:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by TJD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends should not leave another friends house trashed. Plus, if they are YOUR friends, YOU should clean up after them. Friends are only guests the first time they come over, after that they are family and need to behave better.
2006-09-08 11:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by freedomchild99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 11:53:46 · answer #11 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋