I think I love someone I work with but she is happily married - I am very unhappy - what do I do?

Answer 1

Whatever you do, don't label yourself as a homewrecker, people don't take kindly, to them. It's very unfortunate, that it had to be someone that is married, whatever you do, don't test the waters and intrude on her happiness, with her family. What I mean is, don't go snooping around or getting curious, to rather or not, her home, is a happy one. You seem like a very sweet person, i'm sure someday, the right person will come along, for you.

Answer 2

Just think about this - if you feel ill in the morning, you go to work and put a front on, everyone does it - the woman probably is nothing like the person you know when she's at home, regardless of whether she's happily or unhappily married.
Let it be, let things run as everything happens for a reason and you may end up with her, or finding someone 10 times better, even if you don't feel this now.

Answer 3

Sucks, but the sooner you move on the happier you will be. There's nothing wrong with having little crushes on people, you'll do it for the rest of your life. But if she's happily married she is not going to leave her husband and it's really just a recipe for disaster on your end. I know it's hard to imagine at times, but there are a lot of other good people out there who are just as great as this girl. Good luck!

Answer 4

This is coming from someone who had this happen....this is from a spousal point of view.

This woman started coming on to my husband, and all people I don't care who you are will be flattered by this (she will likely be flattered, may or may not reciprocate, but will be flattered) I found out about it. I can tell you it has been the most horrible time in my life, nothing compares to this ever. Leave this woman alone and respect her marriage. Even if she did start up a thing with you, you would have to think about whether or not she would ever do the same to you as she did her husband.

Answer 5

i think your barking up someone Else's tree, unless she has said she loves you back and is leaving her husband you should stay away, if they are at a point in their marriage where they are having problems the right thing to do is back off and let them work it out (either way) i know your hurting and that sucks but if she has a family they are going to hurt more, plus you said it your self "she's happily married" sounds more like you want what you cant have.

Answer 6

You get on with your life. She is someone you can like and adore, but no more... Don't try to be a friend, because it will make things worse for you. This is of course in case she is indeed unseemingly happily married. No daydreaming nothing. You will hurt yourself.

Answer 7

find someone who is single. You cant love her as you don't know her, you have a crush on her. leave her alone if she is married. Don't wreck other peoples marriage, what if she has young kids and you wreck her marriage, how would that affect their children. Don't bother, just because you have a crush. get someone single.

Answer 8

Golden rule mate, No Married ones. Trust me.

Answer 9

You should tell this person how you feel but then if she does not want you, you should move on because you deserve someone to be in love with you just like you are with them.

Answer 10

Wait until you are sure if you love them then tell them how you feel, however happy results on ur end may not come. And change the locks on ur door if they have a way to get in...the spouse may get mad at u:)