I am 17 I'm usually quiet & shy and I get all nervous around girls. I haven't had a g/f since lik 6th Grade and i'm now 12th. I just had another g/f but for only a few days because I was acting "immature" I just don't know how I am supposed to act as a b/f what I am supposed to do and all because I haven't had one in a while. Please help so I can make the next relationship act longer. Just tell me what I should do and how I should act. Around the last one I just acted the same as I did before we went out and was too nervous to kiss her and when I tried to hold hands she didnt want to I just dont know what to do.
2006-09-08 10:53:25 · 8 answers · asked by INVADER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
grow some balls! It doesn't matter when you get a girlfriend, what matters is how you view the relationship. At the moment you seem to view a relationship as a nessecity when really going out with a girl should be about finding a girl, liking her and enjoying your time together.
You're making this great experience into a complete chore, you feel compelled to act a certain way because you feel there must a certain way to act with girls. In reality no. Don't go out with a girl because you feel you should. Take a step back, look at your life and try to look at the way your looking at it. Get confident in yourself, in that I mean do things which you wouldn't normally do, earn some self belief man!
There are no set rules as a boyfriend. You're together because you enjoy each others company, and that means the ideas you have, the actions you do, the things you say are the reason she's with you so don't feel pressured. I hope that makes sense and isn't too clichéd. I didn't have a girlfriend until i was 19 and since then i've learned that it's not really about how many, it's just about meeting someone who you actually have something in common with - go find a girl like that :)
2006-09-08 11:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Joe_Floggs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...first off, let me just say that there is nothing wrong with not having had a girlfriend yet by 17 (I don't count the 6th grade one...you were too young.) To clarify, I and my boyfriend are both 24. We met when we were 20. People always tell us that we are both very attractive and make a very nice couple. Until we met, my boyfriend had never kissed a girl, let alone been on more than one date. There was nothing wrong with him. He was on the shy side and had never found anyone he was interested enough in. The point of the story is, don't feel pressured into feeling you need a girlfriend just because everyone else has one. You will have plenty of time to find someone. Just wait until the right one comes along.
2006-09-08 17:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Faith C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should all ways be yourself. You don't have to change for anyone. But If you are really nervous try going out with some friends that you feel comfortalbe around. So if you start acting like a jerk they can let you know. All so girls like it if you call them alot. Try not to be too forward with a girl. To you time. All so next time try asking you girlfriend if is ok to kiss her, or her her hand. Just don't assume it's ok. Put little notes in her locker, girls like that stuff. Good Luck. Let us know how it works out for you.
2006-09-08 18:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by GERRI B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry man. I was in the same situation. Your still young. You have all of the time in the world for a girlfriend. Just wait till you go to college. New faces new friends. Dude you'll meet somebody, I promise.
2006-09-08 18:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by sometimes I'm too nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, just talk to girls. I personally only have one female friend currently and no, we are not dating and I do not plan to date her. I didn't start talking to females until 11th grade. I am in my 2nd year in college but still, have only one female friend... I never had a girlfriend yet. I'm not worried. We're both young. We got a long life ahead of us. There's lots of times in the future.
2006-09-08 18:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have a problem, i think it was the girl. Just be yourself (I know you've heard that a thousand times but its true.) And what does your ex mean by "immature"?
2006-09-08 17:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by -♡Pookie♡- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let the time take care of that because if you hurry it up it could fall apart
2006-09-08 17:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by crazygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it flow
natural
if you force it
it will break
2006-09-08 17:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋