really if half of all marriages end in divorce why is everyone so upetty about my 5 year bf and I havin a kid without taking an oth. I mean really we gave our word to eachother that is all we need to do I think.
2006-09-08 10:45:26 · 11 answers · asked by SassyFras85 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Marriage is important because it signifies that you and your mate love eachother enough to want to spend the rest of your lives together. Marriage isn't a bad thing and people who fight for their marriages don't just up and get divorces. If you have been together with your bf and are having a baby, wouldn't it be nice for the child to have married parents? Children often feel more secure when their parents are married to eachother, not to mention the fact that they aren't considered "bastard" children.
2006-09-08 10:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been married, but i am in a 2 and half year relationship and engaged. We aren't married and we are having a baby the way i see it, is marriage is no different than just being engaged just some papers saying some stuff. Thats it just papers signed I dont understand what the big deal is rushing to get some papers signed when you have everything you could possible want. Unless your family and all are all based on tradition and go to church and all.
I love my fiance and he loves me we are commited to each other and love to be together.
Sometimes i think couples that are engaged get along better than married couples anyhow!
2006-09-08 18:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people want to believe in tradition even though it rarely works anymore..they can't leave well enough alone..Why get married if you're perfectly happy? It seems silly to me, I got married because I really really wanted to wear the dress :) jk My husband and I have had really hard times but we're doing fantastic and the only difference between marriage and the boyfriend thing i think is that it's harder to breakup...financially anyway..but the relationship is the same..you still have to work at you still have to be partners...the paper that says you're married doesn't change the dynamic of the home if it was happy to begin with it will stay happy...but I think people don't see it that way..i think other than just ignorance and intolerance there really isn't any good reason...
2006-09-08 17:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to the person who said that the child is a bastard, how exactly is it the childs fault that there parents are not married?
It saddens me that people are so closeminded now a days. I was raised by a single mother and I think that I turned out pretty well. My mother was amazing. I graduated high school, went off to college and am soon to graduate as a pediatric nurse. There are so many people who raise there children single, and alot who chose to be single parents. Theres no reason why one should have to get married just to have the blessing of a child.
Also now to your thing. If I where with a man for 5 years and had a child together, I would get married, it's not just a piece of paper like alot say. Its secutity. Think of if your boyfriend where in a horriable car accident. Things would be alot easier when it comes to visiting him in the hospital if they knew you where his wife and not just his girlfriend. Medical stuff like that. Being able to share insurance and stuff. We live in a country where unless your married, you are looked very low on. Thats very sad but it's how things are.
2006-09-08 22:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to judge, plain and simple. My first son was almost 3 when his father and I got married. We handled the commitment of having a child w/o being married. I guess they just don't understand how someone can "commit" w/o making a big fuss and signing some paperwork. Do things however you want, screw what others try to say. Congrats on the kid!
2006-09-08 18:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus don't agree!
He! He! I had a child out
of wedlock, but I know
marriage is pleasing
to God. (Married now)
One reason for the "oh my God you're not married"
stuff is that it is a sin to have sex outside of marriage. If
it is no big deal then why not get married? Not judging you,
but you asked, honey.
2006-09-08 20:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... theres nothing "wrong" with having a baby with a boyfriend that you are stable with...
buuuut, in my opinion, I just dont understand it. Only because a baby is SUCH a BIGGER commitment than marriage is!
But to each their own.
2006-09-08 17:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times i think people just want to say something, and then sometimes people want to have an opinion for whatever reason. And sometimes some people think that you should think they way they think--because they're perfect in every way!! And sometimes people are just assholes!!!
2006-09-08 17:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by Robyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two can not commit to marriage , how are you going to be able to commit to having a child ?
2006-09-08 18:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am guessing you mean 25 year old bf...anyways..just strugg it off...you are living your life the way you want...if you are happy then why let it bother you? Just tell them that you are happy and that is all that matters.
2006-09-08 17:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by angelblueyes200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋