he treats me fairly decent, even though there are some faults, he went with hims mommy on MY b-day to pick-up a camper 4hrs. away! And i didn't even see him until 2 dayz after my b-day! what a jerk right?!?!?!?! He makes me mad so much over stuff like that all the time, he thinks since he just got fired from his job that he has to work his butt off everyday all day except for sunday, he mows wednesday-saturday sometimes thursday through sat. and he doesn't even call me until late, i have school! i can't wait up all night for him to call me! right? he has a cell phone, so what the heck? he won't call me between places that he mows i have to call him if i want to talk. and since he got fired i only see him about once to twice a week instead of 3-5 times a week. i dont know what to do... should i break up with him? should we stay together? if i do break up with him, how should i do it? in person, on the phone, what should i say? please help!!!!! I can't stand it no more, its been 9months!
2006-09-08 10:43:02 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 16 he's turning 20 on the 19th. he said he isn't going to see me on his b-day and im not going to him, is what he said, because he didn't see me on my b-day. he is a momma's boy, and i hate, he won't admit it though but he is, i thought i loved him but now i think that was just lust, i just don't want to get hurt, and i don't want to hurt him. but we have tried to work things out for like 1month 2 months somewhere in there, and things just have not changed, i just don't want this to be a long break-up i want it to be short, sweet, and to the point. but yeah, please give some more advice. thanks!
2006-09-08 10:59:04 · update #1
there are some things that you guys are missing, when i said he went to get a camper with his mom, he went with his dad and brother too, what the heck he didn't have to go! i am not selfish, i am in someways because yeah he doesn't have to call me all the time, thats not what i meant, i mean he calls me at 10 or 10:30 at night and i am already tired and ready for bed, then when were on the phone we don't get off till 12! he has no plans in his life, i do, i have colleges lined up, he hates school and he is a trained carpenter, he won't work as a carpenter, he won't leave his moms house! he graduated in 05' and all he's been doing is working minimum wage jobs in bum f**k no where! its pathetic! help!
2006-09-08 11:11:56 · update #2
any relationship wether it be friendship or emotional must have communication and go both ways
you may be more into him than what he is into you otherwise hed be bending over backwards to contact and to spend most or all his free time with you a but i guess you two are at different levels as you are still in school and he is at work...but he is still making effort to ring you even though its late at night...find out why he cant ring you at an earlier time as he should understand that u do have school..maybe he is tired from work???
honesty is the best policy(and only policy) when u are communicating with him,tell him how u feel and what u want out of your relationship/friendship and find out how he feels and what he wants
you are best to let him go if he has lost interest in you or has totally differing views unless you are prepared to accept them
no good flogging a dead horse i say!!!
Ray
2006-09-08 10:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like you already plan to break up with him
life wont always be easy. if you're looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, you gotta toughen up! sh!t happens.
maybe there's more to it than what i read in your question. but if your reasons are that something came up on your birthday, he's having to work harder since he lost his other job, and he doesnt call you every time he has a free moment..... you need to move on for his sake! he's got alot going on, and you're selfish for not being understanding.
maybe he doesnt wanna listen to you whining at him in those precious few moments he gets to relax in between jobs?
you either gotta stand by your man and let him know you understand and stick thru this with him....or go find some millionaire who will never have to work for anything, cuz that's the only way you can be guaranteed that stress like that wont be put on your relationship.
2006-09-08 17:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is doing everything he can to keep money coming in. and because he at present can't spend as much time as he used to with you .You are upset. Your B/f is showing signs of being mature in setting his priorities and getting them done .
So what that you didn't get to see him on your Bday are you so insecure in your relationship with hime that he has to see you everyday? As far as him not calling when he is at work Good for him! If you break up It is gonna be your loss not his. and do the decent thing and do it in person.
2006-09-08 17:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by iamright2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if you shoud break up with him or not, but if you do, do not do over the phone. You have been dating him for 9 month, so you have to do it in person. I know it sucks, but it is the only decent thing to do. Good Luck!
2006-09-08 17:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young. If he is not calling you there has to be a reason, maybe he is seeing someone else. Break up with him and move on.
2006-09-08 17:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by kylierika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to work it out then dump him but do it to his face. Don't be one of those little girls that have not grown into a real woman.
2006-09-08 17:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy with this relationship than break up with him. Do it in person though.
2006-09-08 17:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new guy, then tell him you are moving on, and explain why, calmly, slowly, without frustration or anger. Then, wash your hands.
2006-09-08 17:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
break up with him, in person, say u just want to be friends
2006-09-08 17:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LET GO & MOVE ON & do it face 2 face
2006-09-08 17:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by lil_divine_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋