Me and her mother have never been married and she has known two homes since birth. My daughter has been with me 5 days a week (going to school, under my medical insurance, providing for her well being, etc.) for the past 7 years. Now her mother is calling all the shots and goes from boyfriend to boyfriend without considering my daughter's emotions. I have been living in the same place since 2000 and I need to have my parenting rights back. Please help me.
2006-09-08 10:42:45 · 10 answers · asked by Manuel M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you have lived in the same house and your daughter has lived mostly with you then you should be abl eto get custody. You have to prove that the mother goes back from man to man and you might even think about asking your daughter to help you out on it. Ask her where she wants to live because no matter what the dna test say you have been her father for 13 years. Take her a** to court and get your daughter away from that.
2006-09-08 10:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by MsThang07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very tough emotional situation and you may not have many legal rights.
Typically the court case is filed where the child has lived for say the past six months. You want to consult a few attorneys who most regularly practice in that court as they know the procedures and the likelihood as to whether you stand a chance in that court of obtaining any rights. Some attorneys will lead you on to believe they can do something when they can't. I would be very specific and ask the attorney for cases in which they have won some rights for a non-biological parent.
I'm not sure that you will obtain any rights from the court as you are not a biological parent and the child was not born while you were married to the mother. You were a live in boyfriend who did establish a relationship with your girlfriend's daughter and that would have been the time to establish a legal agreement. The law is not based on fairness or what is in the best interest of the child or what should be done from an emotional point of view. Since the mother may not have an attorney you can present her with a legal agreement to sign and she may sign it. That is your best bet. Basically you are offering her free childcare and time to be alone with her boyfriends and maybe that is worth something to her.
I am not an attorney.
2006-09-08 17:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.legalmatch.com
This site can help you find the right kind of legal help for you, based on your location, the legal issue at hand, and how much you can afford to pay. Get an attorney and learn your rights. Where does your daughter want to live? Maybe she can let a judge know what she wants. It's a shame her Mom is being so heartless and is ultimately harming her child by her behavior, you are the true Daddy, no matter what any blood tests say. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 17:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with a biological mother in the picture,I'm not sure you have any legal parenting rights. Your best shot would probably be to discredit the mom as unfit. With your history of providing for the child, you would be a logical choice for the courts to award guardianship to. You may also want to consider going after the mother for all the back monies you have spent on her child, if you can prove willful fraud,it may give you leverage in this case.
2006-09-08 17:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with a lawyer. Legally you no longer have any rights as far as this child is concerned. Since you invested so much time that might count for something but I doubt it.
Good luck. By any chance do you know who the father is?
What name is listed on her birth certificate under father?
If it's yours you might have a loophole.
2006-09-08 17:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm sorry I can't help you with your question. But maybe going to court and showing what you have done for your daughter can help. What I really wanted to tell you is that we need more men like yourself. It is a great that you are concerned for her and that you care for her even though she is not your blood. Good Luck on what you decide to do.
2006-09-08 17:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer, and while you are at it, get as much dirt on the mom as possible. even if you have to hire an investigator.
2006-09-08 17:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and stop asking questions to a bunch of strangers.
2006-09-08 17:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you can try to go to court for an adoption, but that would require both biological parents to go along with it too
2006-09-08 17:45:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BY LAW, THOUGH YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER BY DNA, YOUR ARE THE ONE SHE KNOWS AS HER FATHER AND NO ONE ELSE. SEEK LEGAL ADVICE QUICKLY,GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-08 17:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋