I can't really get along with my kids father who is my fiancee but I love him an He loves me and non of this started untill after we had kids. an he is 32 an I am 22 some times it like he wants me to be an old maid an then he says I am boring what should I do but I really do love him an can't be without him for long we tried to break up more than once but it doesn't last long.
2006-09-08 10:31:22 · 16 answers · asked by michelle b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships are about give and take. Unfortunatly women usually have to give more. You have to weigh your options if its worth you giving up your "party' life to be a wife and mother. You may be overlooking that you are lacking for your kids and for him because its hard to see what you're doing wrong when you're having fun. I'm 21 and my finacee is older as well and I didn't realize I was making a lot of mistakes until I quit doing some of the things I was doing.
But if you take a step back and realize that you can't do any more than you're doing, then you two should split because it is easier to break up than it is to get a divorce.
2006-09-08 10:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of confusing here. But if you can't get along with his life choices then how can you have a life with him? You say "after we had kids".. so you two had kids together? Why do you think he wants you to be an old maid? (which is hard to do at 22, maybe by 42) He says your boring ..why? So many things that need to be filled in
2006-09-08 10:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by neelyohara2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to communicate better and stop blaming each other, blaming the kids or pointing out the other's faults. Concentrate on what keeps you together and what you love about each other. Build on those things, and remember to really listen to one another. Maybe you need to get away form the kids for a bit and reintroduce yourselves. Sometimes raising children eats away at a relationship because so much time and effort is spent on them... and not enough is devoted to you! Hang in there!
2006-09-08 10:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by bethiswriting 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have lots of ties, but if you are not getting along, you are better off without him. Take it from me, I was in a relationship for 9 long years with someone I loved but didn't get along with....I am much happier without him.
2006-09-08 10:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually you are toooooooo young to be tied down with some ones children you are still a child get out and enjoy life. He has already enjoyed life and now he is trying to take you most enjoyable years from you. Please don't settle for less in your life get out and have fun with some people your own age.
2006-09-08 10:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love for him may be real, but you don't belong together and if you get married, and if things are already like you describe, you'll end up divorced.
P.S. The word 'and' is spelled 'and', not 'an'.
2006-09-08 10:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kylierika,
You have children, so first and foremost you should act like a mother and put the foolishness aside.
2006-09-08 10:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fix your self up. try different hair style. cloclotheses , make a romantic night for the both of you. have some one watch the kids for a day and night. be sexy . sexy talk him.you never mentioned his life choices so i cant go on that. ask him what he wants , talk...
2006-09-08 10:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then figure out what you really want from or out of your relationship,then the two of you should discuss it and come to some kind of compromise.
2006-09-08 10:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to hit the road jack and don't come back no more no more.You can do alot better.Take it from someone who's wasted to many years on bs.
2006-09-08 10:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by llgarrett69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋