How do you feel about it? After 15 yrs of marriage, my husband and I opened our marriage up and began to see others for friendship and sex. This literally saved our marriage which had fallen into a deep hole. This lifestyle isn't for everyone. But it works great for us. Is there any others out there that have this relationship?
2006-09-08 10:17:14 · 26 answers · asked by Cherry 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We didn't enter into marriage thinking we would do this. However, it did bring us closer together and we love this lifestyle. We don't play together, we just see others, of the opposite sex. Neither of us are into the same sex stuff. We do have our rules for who we meet and when. But we trust each other explicitly. There is no jealousy or animosity. We have fun with this and we are still married and we are nearing 20yrs.
2006-09-10 13:09:47 · update #1
We've been in the Lifestyle for several years and we have become nothing but closer to each other because of it. The level of communication and trust between us is only dreamed about by others.
2006-09-09 21:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me old fashion. I guess the vows some people take don't mean a hill of beans. I myself take those vows seriously. I'm not saying that my marriage is rosy everyday. it's not but I married him because I loved him and still do. Why bother to get married if all your going to do is cheat on each other. That's what your doing. What would happen if he found someone he really wanted for the rest of his life, would you then think this open marriage thing is so great. Not to mention the risk of disease. I just don't see that if your marriage fell into this so called deep hole, how this would bring you both back to the surface.
2006-09-08 17:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My x and I had a female that lived with us for a couple of months in a open marriage. At the time I thought it was great. It never helps a relationship, just delays the inevitable.Good luck trusting each other.
2006-09-08 17:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by want2wild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ! Ur not alone ! Many married couples resort to spice up their sex life after years of marriage. Everyone does it different, but the act itself & the end results are similar.
Me & my eX, after 14.5 years together, we decided to swing, have 3somes, 4somes , group & gang bang parties. We selected with who based on our taste, like how tall, how fit, what age, what class, education & finances. Sometimes, i gang bang her with 2 or more guys, sometimes she does that to me with girls, swap wifes/girlfriends.Anything u could think off, we did it.
Our life sky rocketed to heaven & our love grew stronger for each other. Once u are into it, then u realize that 80% of couples do it do, but discret about. Then u go, wow..i thought no one does that
Hey, enjoy it coz sex is fun.
2006-09-08 18:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I couldn't do this and feel good about it. why did you even get married if you where going to share your body with others. That's why u get married so you share your life with only that person. Having an open marriage, defeats the purpose of getting married.
2006-09-08 17:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Grace Q. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Why had your marriage fallen into a deep hole? Can you elaborate?
I'm interested in it - my husband is NOT! I joke about how I can't wait to get into a retirement home for all the fun, but hubby's not amused...
I'd love to learn more. Drop me a line?
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2006-09-08 17:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what you say open marriage. My husband and I are swingers, it is alot of fun. we only do it as couples and with other couples and single females, and under no circumstances with no single males. We do not play alone we play together, if a woman sees my husband interesting, then she has to be willing to be with me as well. That is just our rules. you should never play alone or with singles, if you /he is not going to be involved, you will find your self eventually alone...
2006-09-08 17:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you are not in a marriage,your in a sex relationship.This did not save a "marriage" it saved a sex relationship. Boy do you need help.Start planning for your divorce.
2006-09-08 17:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by archer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life is in trouble, not your marriage and marriage is more than just sex! and there's no such thing called open marriage, at least for me.
2006-09-08 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Nadia Miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been in it for 10 years. It is not a lifestyle for everyone, but it works for us!
2006-09-12 06:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋