What do i tell my mom?

Question

My mom always tend to dout how smart i am ok im not the best student shes ever had and i have little blonde moments here and there and when ever i have something seriouse she always tells me that ill never make it because im dumb she says she doesnt know how im going to make it i life and it really hurts my feelings so times what do i say?

Answer 1

Tell her it hurts your feelings. But if she continues, just remember that you don't have to live with her forever! Don't take what she's saying to heart - you know you're smart and that's all that matters. Believe in yourself, not what she thinks.

Answer 2

You say you're not the best student your mom has ever had -- is she your teacher? Or home schooling you?
That's an absolutely terrible thing to say to a young person. Or to anyone, for that matter. And when she says it, she's reflecting her own insecurities more than she's commenting on your problems.
Some parents see their children almost as accessories to themselves. Their child has to be the prettiest, the brighest, the best athlete, etc.etc.etc. and if the child is not, they take it as a reflection against themselves. Which is pretty dumb, when you think about it. But a lot of parents (far too many, in fact) do just that. So when they berate you for something, or say you aren't smart enough, not pretty enough (as though anyone can do anything about that! But that's why my mom used to tell me) or anything else, they are not looking at you as an individual. They are very selfishly thinking only of themselves and what people might say about THEM. So when she takes off on one of those tacks, just remember that it's all about her, and not about you, no matter what words she is using.
Would it help to tell her it really hurts your feelings? Probably not. If she's done it all your life she isn't going to stop now, because it's STILL going to be all about her.
What you can do, is feel sorry for her. And recognize that you have the ability to achieve whatever you set out to do, whether she approves or not. Once you come of age, you don't have to remain in an abusive atmosphere.
But the bottom line is: trust yourself, have confidence in yourself, and be yourself.
God bless you!

Answer 3

this is horrible, your mother really doesn't have a clue does she?? You are a bright and it's great you recongnize you aren't worthless and dont' EVER let anyone not even your mother tell you different!! I would go about this with your school councellor or a church councellor or a family member-someone adult that can call your mom on how she's acting and let her know how wrong this is!! I would also make it know to her exactly how you feel-but do involve someone close to you that you trust!! Good luck i will pray for you-God Bless!!

Answer 4

No one knows you any better than yourself. Much of the things your mom says she does so because she is afraid to let you grow up, she wants to keep her little girl always.

I would tell her how I felt. Don't do it in a bit.chy sort of way, just share your feelings with her. If that doesn't work, everytime she makes a comment like that, remind her that you are just a chip of the old block and you learned everything you know from her.........

Answer 5

This woman is a failure as a mother. Her actions show how dumb she is not you. She lacks self esteem and self worth. Cut her out of you life now. Go find a positive role model and don't be hurt by someone that has failed as a mother and will continue to fail in life.

Answer 6

Just tell your mom that the stuff she says to you really hurts. She may not understand why it hurts you so to listen to your own mom talk down on her daughter. Tell her what you need is moral support. Even if she doesn't believe in you, tell her to keep it to herself. You will want to prove her wrong one day and make her proud. But in the meanwhile, tell her that if she keeps doing what she does, you'll end up having low self-esteem. And ask her if she even cares about you, if she does, she'd do her best to be supportive.

Answer 7

Let her know that she hurts your feelings when she says things like that to you. You can do and be whatever you want to in life. If she does not want to acknowledge that, then maybe you need to stop worrying about her changing her ways and start living and knowing that you can accomplish the goals that you want to in life. Remember people always have things to say negative, even if it is your parents.

Answer 8

Tell her you get your genes from her! Seriously if your mom is really saying this stuff there is nothing you can say to her. She is crass and uncaring.

Start saving your money while you go to school so when you are old enough and legal you can move away from her. Talk to your school counselors for moral support.

Do the best you can in school so you can go far in life.

You are the daughter whom God loves!

G.G.

Answer 9

You say "verbal abuse doesn't help anyone".
If she really cared, she'd do something constructive, like help you study, send you to Sylvan, or pay for a tutor.
You need to tune that out. Focus on accomplishing what you need to. If you put your mind to it, you can do anything. Don't let anybody insult your intelligence. Crack those books, do the best you can, and eventually she'll see that you did it, all by yourself, without her.
Good luck

Answer 10

Tell her that her voiced opinion of you hurts your feelings.

Then, do not allow it to penetrate your soul.

Hang in there and keep your head up. We were never supposed to be just like the other guy, we are individuals, and God did not make a mistake with you. You have a purpose.

Keep smiling, and the best to you.