Recently my boss got married and didn't invite anyone from the department to his wedding. a total of 5 of us is in the department. we communicate on a work basic that's about it. we all have the normal gripe about the job and towards the boss as any other normal work environment is. my co-workers and I were approach by other employees and was ask did any of us attend his wedding. NO we weren't invited. We got a lot of negative reaction from other employees who thought that he should of given us the opportunity to decline if we weren't going to attend. how long have we known our boss you may ask over 10 years. I have no plans what so ever to invite him to my wedding and that's final. but my fiancé is being a pain in the *** about this issue. she thinks despite how he acted about his wedding we should still invite him. "I say hell mf no". is there a written rule that says we should invite him.? why waste a stamp when there is a grate chance he might decline? so what are your thought on.
2006-09-08 10:09:44 · 27 answers · asked by paul j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should not invite him. What goes around should always come around.
2006-09-08 10:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding should be the most happiest day in your life. If you do not like someone or do not feel comfortable about asking someone to go, then don't ask. Why ruin it for yourself?
Your boss may have a reason why he didn't ask any of his employees to attend. Could be that he and his wife only wanted to invite family? or it could have been a destination wedding? who knows. But my suggestion is you don't have to invite everyone you know to your wedding if you don't want to.
2006-09-08 10:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I know you might not want to hear this but for every reason you have for not wanting to invite him makes it sound like all the more reason to show yourself and others that you can be a forgiving person. So what if he didnt invite you to his wedding...get over it!!! You need to learn to forgive others even when they hurt you. This is the perfect opportunity to start. So what if he declines-go have a good time regardless of who shows up. Its your wedding man-smile and stop worring about who's done you wrong in the past. If you're like this with everyone who pisses you off, your the one who might need to change. Good luck
2006-09-08 10:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by runner_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could be the bigger person here (than your boss obviously was) and invite him and his new wife. That may be your fiancee's motivation behind wanting to invite him. However, if I were in your shoes and I had a boss (I work for myself), I wouldn't even consider inviting any of my past supervisors. If they do come, and you have invited any of your co-workers, they will naturally latch on to them during the evening (reception and dance) making it uncomfortable for them. Considering the way you have shown how you and your co-workers feel about him, I wouldn't bother.
2006-09-09 10:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people who are close to teh both of you as well as meaningful to your lives as individuals should only be invited. I mean after all you do have to pay for his meal and how many times has your boss done that for you. If you dont want YOUR boss at YOUR wedding sharing private special moments your Fiance should respect that.
2006-09-08 10:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nickerbockers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your girlfriend mad ? Don't invite your boss, he's not your friend just your boss, you would appear a proper creep if you invited him. Only invite people you like if you want an intimate ceremony, it does sound as if your girlfriend is trying to imprss - how sad !
2006-09-08 19:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite him... if he declines then it's no skin off your nose... just the price of a stamp... but if he comes along then he may start being that bit nicer to you and your colleagues... Someone has to instigate a peace offering, it doesn't just pop up from no where, might as well be from you
2006-09-08 14:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should bother. Weddings are about being surrounded by the ones you love and appreciate. And if this action has made you mad about your boss then in no way should you invite him. It could ruin your wedding day.
2006-09-08 12:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tricia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are inviting the rest of your department, then you should invite him. If you're inviting very few personal friends from work, then don't invite him.
There is absolutely no ettiquette rule that says that you have to invite people from work to your wedding.
2006-09-08 16:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boss set the tone of your work relationships, and that is no socializing outside of the office. Don't invite him, it will look like you are simply wanting a gift.
2006-09-08 16:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, avoid all the drama and mail an invitation to your company for your department. This is the easiest way to make sure you've covered your bases and you don't have to leave anyone out.
2006-09-08 10:17:45 · answer #11 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋