for having a good family ,is it important to have one leader for it?! should men be the leaders?

Answer 1

I think both parents should take the lead (or, ideally, run a semi-democratic household), because learning how to cooperate and respect one another is just as important as making the "right" decisions. Besides, nobody is perfect, so no one person should have the final say on anything without it being open to discussion, revision, and mutual agreement.

Answer 2

There are different "departments" when it comes to how a family operates, and whoever is the most intelligent and skilled in any of the "departments' is the one who should handle that particular thing.

Women often are far more intelligent when it comes to understanding human nature, child-rearing, and looking at the big picture and long-term picture with regard to children. It doesn't have to be a woman, but until parents do a better job rearing little boys to have more skill than many men do now, there's a good chance the woman is best on this one.

If there are two parents, they need to be a team; and if they have differences they need to work out whether there will be a compromise or not, and if not the person who "wins" should be able to present a legitimate and sound argument for why there shouldn't be a compromise.

Finances: Whoever is better at it, and if they're both good at it, whoever has the time. If there are differences of opinions, obviously compromise has to be worked out.

House-cleaning: Whoever is best and whoever has the time. If the other person helps when they can that's ideal. Whoever does the cleaning gets to make the rules about who eats in the living room and who puts the dirty laundry where etc.

Pet: Whoever has the time and is best able to do things like bring the pet to the vet without making the pet too anxious.

Cars: Everybody can manage their own, or if someone has more time than someone else they can help the other person with the other car. If someone is more able to fix something on a car and would rather do that than spend money to have it done the person who wants to do the fixing should do it unless the person who owns the car prefers a mechanic, in which case the person who wants to pay for it should pay for it.

There are issues about all kinds of other things as well. The same kind of reasoning should apply.

If there are two parents and children the children need to see both parents working together and being capable and independent. If there is one parent, obviously that parent needs to be the leader. If there are two they both need to work together and share leadership in the family when it is the family issues at hand. If it is the individual who has some issue then that individual is the one who needs to decide on how it should be handled, unless it involves asking for something from the other partner.

The world is full of couples where the man may just be an idiot - honestly. There are also couples where the woman tend to prefer to be some helpless little princess or Earth Mother who lets everybody else take over. The children and/or the family pays when an incompetent is in charge.

Some people do not take the bible literally. Others may take whatever it says as if it were written in a more symbolic way. Others figure it was written in a time when people lived the way many people in the Middle East still live today. (There have been a whole lot of beliefs about women or people of a particular race or people with particularly low or high IQ's or any number of other groups of people throughout history, and today people have seen enough to know that they should be horrified at how things used to be.)

Yes. A family needs a leader or two leaders who work things out between them and present a united front to the children. The world (and this country) is full of women who have reared the children and kept a family together without benefit of a man. In fact, sometimes the family is better off without some buffoon man around screwing things up. (I'm not talking about all men, I'm talking about the ones who are buffoons or otherwise less than what a decent, intelligent, man is.) The world is full of men who grow up out of awful neighborhoods and become successes, only to say, "I'd like to thank my mother" or "I'd like to thank my grandmother".

So the one-parent family has one leader. The two-parent family needs the two leaders to act as a team. The most qualified person for any family issue is the one who should handle it

Any person who takes on all the responsibilities for everything can at times be kind of a powerless worker-bee type and at other times may enjoy the power of decision-making. Either way you look at it neither partner should be either all-powerful or all-powerless. Its not healthy. Women get stressed out and gain weight over it. Men have heart attacks over it.

Should a man be the leader if the couple goes out to do some ballroom dancing? Sure. That's just kind of what's right and what's tradition and romantic and ok. During the Olympics I heard someone say that the male figure-skater's job is to showcase the woman skater. There are times when its natural for a man to lead, but a family is a social institution. It should be a microcosm of society, or it should even be a small part of society that is on the leading edge of how society should evolve.

There are all kinds of emotional, intellectual and social issues involved for every member of a family; and a family has to nurture each and every one of each and every type of issue in a way that, ideally, will result in whole, well-rounded, decent, mature, individuals who have the chance to reach their potential if they wish.

A family is too complex, and the challenges are too complicated, to just automatically appoint a leader based on his gender and some presumed God-given right to run the show. Across Nature, a whole lot of father animals don't stay around to run the show while the babies are young. Then, again, occasionally there's a species like the penguins who have fathers who care for the babies. Although Nature seems to point to the female being the one to run the family, there are exceptions.

We aren't animals, though, and it just makes sense to recognize the very complex issues involved in rearing children and making wise financial choices and providing stabililty over the long-term; and running a family the way an up-and-coming company may be run - with the most able people handling the jobs at which they're most able. Some companies have stockholders, some have a couple of siblings who run a private company, some have one person who runs it. There are no hard and fast rules but only a matter of what makes the most sense or else what that company just ended up being.

That's how families should be.

Answer 3

Depends on the man. Is he a good leader? Kind and thoughtful?
or a tyrant? Does he lead or drag his family? Does he use reason and logic, or beat them into submission.
Some men shouldn't be the leader of the family. Because they are just mean. Some men make great leaders for the family and are loved and respected by the family.
So it depends on the man.

Answer 4

Hmmmm...I guess its important to have one leader which is a good one.A men or a women would be fine as long as they are a good person.

Answer 5

the man and the woman should be the leader; it's why when they got married, they agreed to help each other.

Answer 6

It is important to have someone who has the last word on things. The bible says the husband should be the head of the house hold, but it comes with responsibility.

Answer 7

WHAT ABOUT SINGLE MOMS ,, AREN'T THEY PROOF THAT MEN AREN'T THE ONLY LEADERS ,

Answer 8

Equality is the key