My boyfriend does not want sex anymore. We broke up and he just stopped wanting it. He decided we should not have any more sex at all. I like sex, Im not like an addict or anything but when he looks at me a certain way or kisses me/holds me like 'that' I just... Want it. I cant help my feelings and I do love him more than sex but this is silly. He does want sex he told me. He thinks we have an addiction. He does this alot, and changes his mind but he says its for real this time.
I know I cant change his mind but it's been a month, and he hates to kiss me and tell me he loves me. He hates hugs. I know he loves me but I need to see it through kisses and such. I know I sound vain but I will stay with him sex or not. I just miss those times...
Opinions? And no, he isnt gay nor is he seeing anyone else. He couldnt be crazier about me but he just wont have sex with me. We had sex on average... maybe once a week. No more.
Oh and no, Im not some dumb teenager :)
Thanks
2006-09-08 09:35:50 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WE GOT BACK TOGETHER AFTER BREAKING UP
SORRY
2006-09-08 09:38:44 · update #1
Please read the thing I wrote we got back together
After that sex=nonexistant
2006-09-08 09:40:43 · update #2
He has no religion whatsoever and is against religion. I dont know..
2006-09-08 09:49:32 · update #3
i seriously think he is seeing someone else... guys just don't do that for no reason... think about it.... i'm not just saying this to make you mad...
2006-09-08 09:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever his problem, he doesn't seem to want to talk about it up front which makes it difficult to get to the truth. It's difficult to know how to approach this - is it the only part of your relationship where you are having problems? What's your gut feeling - has he gone off it or may there be someone else? Maybe have a lazy, feel-good night in together, a take-away, a few drinks, a laid back film. Get him mellow and relaxed, then get gently physical and see how it goes. Whatever you do, don't get angry, upset or make it into a big deal. If he is having libido problems, that will just make it worse. If he still won't discuss it, you could both go to Relate and talk about it. His lack of communication is probably a bigger problem in the relationship than your lack of sex. They also do sex counselling.
2016-03-27 03:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he doesn't want to have sex with you doesn't mean that he is crazy, cheat, gay or whatever. He may just want to cool it because if you were having it all the time on the hour then maybe he just needs a break from it or maybe he wants to wait for marriage or it could be a number of things. I was glad to read that you are not going to leave him if the sex isn't there thats great cause it shows that you don't want him just for sex and maybe he thought thats what you wanted from him sex only. Either way stick with him and I hope that it works out for the 2 of you.
2006-09-08 09:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a statement and put a question mark at the end of it.
What is your question? Do you want to know why he doesn't want to have sex anymore or what you should do? Opinions? OK ask him to be truthful with you about the sex thing.I've never heard of a guy to stop after they have started but in your case you have and he wants to stop now,there is some under lying cause here,you need to find out what that is.
2006-09-08 09:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to spice it up a little? Maybe a porn movie or put something real sexy on. Maybe some role playing, buy a nice wig or some high heels. Do you give him any oral sex, because if not then you should try. Good luck.
2006-09-08 09:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by hoddie518 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but he's getting it from somewhere esle, even thou he's with you and says he loves you. you proivde him something she doesnt so thats why he's with you but not kissing you and not having sex that is strange unless he's into a new religion that he's not telling you about. A conversation with him is needed. If he cant be upfront with you then its not worth it
sorry hope it works out you will be in my thoughts and prayers
2006-09-08 09:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andrew just read my mind. When I first started dating my husband (not having sex with him), he was living with another woman and to make a long story short, she found out about us about 6 months later and she said to me, "I wondered why he stopped having sex with me" He told me he was in love with me and he felt like he was cheating on me if he had sex with her so he just stopped. Be careful!!
2006-09-08 09:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by LadyA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what it is, is that he doesnt want ur relationship to turn into something just for sex. he loves you, and he wants you, but he might be afraid of if thats what it all it ends up being. talk to him about it. and say are u afraid that it might turn into just sex and lust than love anymore. cuz if thats the case u need to show him hes all wrong. good luck with that. :)
2006-09-08 09:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Carlino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUcks 4 u
2006-09-08 09:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Chuckles. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it because he found God? Is he making this decision based on morals and values?
Either way, you can't change his mind so either go along with it and keep dating him or leave him alone.
2006-09-08 09:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by treasures320 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is disgusted that he gave it away freely without marriage. If you don't respect yourself why should he. Maybe it is time to re-evaluate your life.
G.G.
2006-09-08 09:40:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋