how long should you know someone before you consider marriage?

Answer 1

Depends on the person, your maturity, your partner's maturity, etc.

I dated my fiance for 3 yrs (without any break-ups) before engagement and it'll be 4-1/2 yrs before marriage. I don't think you need that much time, necessarily but we did.

Answer 2

There is no set time but I would say as long as you are sure and there are no doubts in your mind that you want that person till death do you part... Then, and only then, should you even consider marriage.. Marriage is a HUGE commitment and should not be taken lightly. Make certian you do not become a statistic of divorce and take the steps to ensuring that by getting to know your potential mate and taking your time.. Remember you have ALL the time in the world! Don't rush!

Also, make certian that you guys are considering marriage for the right reasons. Make sure you that you know that marriage is forever...

Answer 3

Scientific answer: at least 14 months. At this point, the levels of chemicals in your brain which make you "feel in love" have dissipated and the giddy, light-headed feeling so closely associated with "falling in love" will come less and less frequently. From this level-headed position, one can decide whether the relationship is beneficial and if all the person's little faults can be overlooked enough to spend a lifetime together and bear offspring.

Heartfelt answer: as long as it takes for you to have your first big fight and to recognize that the other person has flaws and can anger you, but you care about them enough to realize that it doesn't matter. You must be able to look at the person and think, yes, I will clean up the mess they made in the bathroom. Yes, I will still have sex with them when we are old and not quite as virile. Yes, I will love them for 50+ years. Love is about commitment and sacrifice, not just about the feeling. When you know that, you can consider marriage.

Answer 4

I think you should have a chance to be independent before considering marriage -- finish college, work full time and support yourself. If I hadn't known my husband as a friend since high school, I would have waited at least 18 months - 2 years before marriage.

One thing to beware of is a potential mate trying to rush into marriage before you have a chance to feel sure that it is the right thing for you both.

If you have any doubts at all, then you are not ready to marry.

Answer 5

There's no time period. If you two are ready, then go for it. However, do consider if you two are prepared for marriage life. Like do you both work? Do you have a place to live together? would you be able to commute from home to work? Have you consider children in the near future? These are stuff to think about first before you settle down.

Answer 6

Marriage is a very huge step so you want to feel extremely comfortable with this person before you take the leap. There is no set time. I prefer after graduating out of higher learning institutions before marriage, but love can be found before then as well.

Answer 7

This is tricky! I knew my husband for a long time before we were married, we went to Junior High School together. We dated for two years, got engaged. We were engaged for two years and then got married. I suppose it is a personal preference, but keep in mind of the high divorce rate. I believe it is so high because many people do not really know their spouse before they are married. I am a firm believer that you should live together for at least a year before you decide to get married. You don't really know someone until you live with them. Good Luck

Answer 8

If both one of you want and appreciate one yet another, then basically be engaged for decades. Get to understand one yet another more desirable proper and do not rush issues. It replaced into love at the starting up sight with my fiance'. We were given engaged before this 365 days after 4 years at the same time. I requested her to marry me very last 365 days (June 2008) yet she suggested no. She's surely 23 now and that i'm 28 so i'm giving her time to ensure what she needs to do.

Answer 9

It takes time to truly get to know a person...but it depends on how you interact and how much you interact. You can date someone long distance and be togethe for 5 years only seeing one another 2 times a year versus seeing someone everyday for 6 months....

Answer 10

I cant say that its a matter of knowing someone for a period of time because you can be with a lover for 10 years and still not be sure you guys should get married. Its a matter of you and the person simply KNOWING that you're ready to take that step!