Threesomes?

Question

Is having a threesome with your loving partner a bad idea or good idea?

Answer 1

It's great if both of you completly agree on it

Answer 2

Is is a good idea? My wife and I have had threesomes and moresomes, and our relationship is incredible, and it was pretty dang good before we started swinging. It was because we were that happy and trusted each other without question that we were able to explore our fantasies. Once we started exploring and removed sexual jealousy, what really holds us together became very apparent. It is everything besides sex that makes a relationship great.

When you look at it, unless you were both virgins when you met you both had good sex with other people. Obviously, you two are together now and the sex, no matter how good, was not enough to keep your relationships with your ex's together.

Sex sometimes clouds people's judgement of whether or not they are in love. When the sexual newness wears off they discover they don't really like each other that much or have much in common outside of good sex and the relationship goes down the drain.

This is what I mean about our relationship getting better. When the reason for being together was we were horny for each other was taken away, all the other aspects of why we get along the other 23 hours a day were more in-focus and we concentrated on making that even better.

We've been together 8 years and we still hold hands all the time, we still spoon in bed every night, we are terrible at public displays of affection and embarass our kids all the time by how we act like teenagers together. And sex between us is still the best. Sex with others isn't better, it's just different. Sex with someone you are deeply in love with is a completely different experience then sex with someone you just are lusting after. I think anyone who has ever been in love and has also had one night stands can attest to that.

So for us, it has worked very well. But for some, the fantasy is better left a fantasy because they are not emotionally equipped to handle it. And that's okay. Everybody is different.

If your relationship is strong, both of you are secure in yourselves and your relationship, this is both or your fantasy, and you can easily seperate sex from love, then it will be great. If you don't meat all the above requirements there could be issues.

First, it has to be both of your fantasy, not just one and the other one is going alone to make them happy.

Second, you have to be able to realize that sex and love are too different things and just because you have sex with someone doesn't mean you'll fall in love with them. It's kind of like having a one night stand. You have about the same emotional attachment to the other person. Lust, not love. Sex without love is just great exercise. ;-)

Third, you must be secure in yourself and your relationship. Too many people confuse love and jealousy, they figure the stronger the love the more jealous they should be. In fact, the stronger the love the more you should trust your partner and not be jealous. Jealousy is simply insecurity on the part of the jealous one. It's a fear that they don't hold enough worth to someone else to keep them and that someone else better then them could come along at any time, so they they attempt to protect their loved one. In jealousy there is more self-love then love. Jealousy is an illness. Love and trust are healthy emotions.

Talk about the fantasy with your partner first, get on the same page. If so, lay down some ground rules about what you are both comfortable with and what you are not. Then, go have a good time.

Answer 3

It would all depend on your relationship with your partner. If this is something that you both want and are both comfortable with the idea of another person being part of your lovemaking then everything should be good.

Some personal advice. Remember to talk to your partner about this afterwards. See how they feel about what happen. Tell your partner what you thought about it and what you did and didn't find good about it.

Threesomes can really bring you closer to your partner or it can tear you apart it will all depend on how strong the two of you are.

Godd luck with it and remember the most important rule: HAVE FUN!!

Answer 4

From personal experience....I will tell you that they can bring a lot of jealousy.

Lay the ground rules before you look for someone else to bring into your bedroom...make sure you are both comfortable with what you are going to do...

My hubby and I did it once and the guy became very attached to me very quickly...and that is not a good thing.

Answer 5

I know a friend who invited someone to join him and his wife my friend became jealous because his wife had multiple O and goes behind his back to contact this guy 313 oops! i mean the guy wants no more to do with her because they've been friends since age 4 Bro's before H**** but I'm i mean he straight up honest with his boy now he knows and chooses to stay
I wouldn't let no one touch my main thang

Answer 6

Yes if there is understanding and trust between everyone it is the greatest thing, then being with one person. then you can have love lot of it.

Answer 7

i think its a bad idea because once you open that door you cant really close it :)

Answer 8

BAD you dont want to destroy the love.

Answer 9

i wants me some blonddoctor

Answer 10

its very very good